No, We’re Not Friends
But just two years into their marriage, shortly after Maddox was adopted, Jolie and Thornton separated. Jolie says they had been drifting apart even before they brought Maddox home.
"He started focusing on certain things, his music, and different films," Jolie told Walters. "I started focusing on traveling a lot, and really wanted to, and knew Cambodia, and really wanted to adopt a child. … Billy and I just became very different people, and that was before Maddox even came home. And, by the time Maddox came home, we were kind of living apart."
After all of her public passion for Thornton — and having his name tattooed on her body — Jolie says she and her ex-husband now have no contact at all.
While some thought their relationship seemed extreme, Jolie says she simply wanted to make her husband happy.
"I wanted him to feel good. I believe that's something that you do. That's something a wife would do, for … to or for her husband. And, and at the time I meant it. I thought he was amazing. And, now I just feel like I don't know him. … We're not friends." she said.
Still, Jolie says she has no regrets about her marriage to Thornton. "I think you make mistakes, and you learn from then, and if you become a better person from those lessons learned, then that's good," she said.
Jolie says she's happy raising Maddox. "It's an amazing thing to take care of a child and to have a child trust you and love you. That makes me feel like I somehow have a purpose. … I didn't know what I would be like as a parent. So, I've learned that I love being a mom. … If he's OK, if he's healthy, nothing else matters to me. And, that's just such a clarity. I never knew."
Jolie says she'd like to adopt another child, but doesn't plan to have a biological child. "It's this weird feeling that if I had a … biological child next year, then there would be that kid out there that I would have adopted, that now isn't adopted and is living in an orphanage," she said.
This summer, Angelina says she plans take some time off to go back to Asia with her son. His heritage and its gentle Buddhist traditions will be an important part of his life. She's building a home there and plans to live there for months at a time.
"I want him to know how wonderful his country is, and his people are, and I want him to be proud of that," she said.
Knives and Cutting and Sex
And Jolie struggled hard to find the clarity she found in motherhood. There have been times when she says her history mirrored that of her characters a little too closely — especially the damaged ones — Lisa, the mentally ill young woman in Girl Interrupted; Gia, the drug-addicted supermodel. Jolie has admitted she flirted with a heroin habit herself at one time, and that in the past, she often thought about suicide.
"I used to think I was unstable, because I had this thirst for something. I could never figure out what it was. I couldn't sleep at night, and I always wanted to be somewhere else, and I have a window tattooed, uh, this little box, and it's because wherever I was, I wanted to be somewhere else. And, I always saw myself, wherever I was in life, staring out the window," she said.
Jolie talked once about there being darkness in her life, but says the suffering and poverty she has seen around the world have changed her. "I would be ashamed to think that I have anything to complain about."