A Day in the Life: Two Men Raising Triplets

"What's the best time of the day?" I asked Langbert.

"In the morning when they wake up and you can see that first smile on their face, when you pick 'em up out of the crib and they're happy to see you," he said.

At 9 a.m., he takes the family's two dogs and heads to work as an entrepreneur. Garcia, an artist, is a stay-at-home dad who spends all his time raising the triplets, with a little help from an aunt.

He always dresses the triplets in the same colors: Tosca in yellow, Chaucer in pink, and Carter in either green or blue. This makes it easier to tell the babies apart.

Each day, he goes through two-dozen diapers, washes five loads of laundry, runs six loads of dishes, cleans the apartment, and even finds time to be a handyman.

Just getting the triplets ready to go out for a walk takes almost half an hour.

Wherever they go, Garcia is asked about the triplets. And then, inevitably, he's asked where their mother is.

"I'm the daddy and the mama," Garcia usually answers.

The two dads don't know which one is the biological father — and have no plans to test the triplets' DNA.

Garcia usually feeds the kids. "I shuttle the food back and forth," said Langbert, "and make the oatmeal and prepare the bottles."

When dinner is over, it's bath time.

"We have an assembly line set up," said Langbert. "James goes and gets the tub ready and lays out all their clothing and the supplies you need. James bathes one, dries them, takes them out to me. And if things stay in balance, I can finish feeding one kid just as the next one comes out of the bath."

By 9 p.m., the day is finally winding down. The lights are turned off. The television is turned on. And the two men reflect on their lives as they get the triplets ready for bed.

A Different — And Loving — Family

"What will you say to your children when they get old enough to ask questions?" I asked.

"There are a lot of different types of families out there, and yours has two very loving fathers," answered Langbert.

Still, they know their family looks different than most.

"When you dress them all up, and you're taking a photo, that's when it hits you, that your family looks very different than many other photos that you see out there," Langbert said.

"We believe that they're the most precious babies in the entire world, and if anybody begs to differ, that's what we think," said Garcia.

"And I have the pictures to prove it!" added his partner.

One of the babies is walking, another is crawling, and the third is sitting up. And all three are learning to say "Dada."

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