But nearly a year later, a calm set in and Darlene adjusted to her new status as a single mom. She had begun teaching yoga and focused mostly on the children.
On the morning Feb. 12, 2005, Todd's dark secret was about to be revealed. Darlene got a phone call from the security company protecting Todd's home, saying the alarm had gone off and the FBI was on the premises. Within minutes, Darlene was there watching agents carry out boxes and search the house.
Darlene Calvin's world was about to come crashing down. The lead agent told her to sit down. Then he hit her with the shattering news. Her ex-husband had been arrested, swept up in an elaborate year-long FBI sting operation that infiltrated the North American Man Boy Love Association, a controversial group that claims to exist only to lower the legal age of sexual consent between men and boys.
Darlene could barely focus. "My head was screaming, man boy love, man boy love, what does that mean" she said. She could barely hear as the agents explained that Todd was suspected of preying on young boys for sex.
Todd's office staff was just as stunned. "How are they going to make this up to him because this is a mistake, this is a horrible mistake. Dr. Calvin wouldn't jaywalk. He wouldn't spit gum on the sidewalk," Gayla Kirk remembered thinking.
How could it happen? How could the straight-laced, singing dentist be involved in such an unthinkable crime? Psychiatrist Gail Saltz, who has written about the power of secrets, said that it doesn't surprise her at all. "People who harbor secrets like that often actually do appear super moral," she said.
For Darlene, there was no end to the shocking revelation. In court documents she learned that during a phone call with the undercover agent, Todd had talked about a past encounter with a 13-year-old boy. And when a trip to Mexico was planned, Todd was recorded saying he hoped to find 12- to 13-year-old boys willing to engage in sodomy.
"The man who shared our life and who shared our children. The man who shared my bed -- prefers young boys."
Last week Todd pleaded guilty to traveling across state lines for the purpose of having sex with a minor. Though Darlene is convinced that her ex-husband never harmed their two children, she is asking courts to restrict him from ever seeing them again.
"He took away any good memories because a good father wouldn't have done that. Everything is a betrayal. This is never going to go away."