Daddy-Tracked: Men Punished at Work for Child Duties
Women aren't the only ones whose career growth can get sidelined by parenthood.
June 17, 2010 — -- We've all heard about how becoming a mother can be the kiss of career death for some women.
Tell an unsympathetic employer that you need to duck out early to schlep a sick kid to the doctor one time too many and you can say goodbye to that high-profile project you were hoping to land. Try to return to full-time work after a several years home with the kids and you could find picking up where you left off -- and collecting a comparable salary -- about as easy as getting your kids to bed after they've downed a couple cans of Red Bull. Factor in the airtight job market the recent recession has left us with and you're doubly damned.
But it's not just moms who have to contend with their career growth being sidelined by parenthood. There's a daddy track, too.
Kent, a Web advertising professional from Seattle, has been on it. He lost his job of 10 years in 2007, when the family-friendly company he worked for shipped his department to another state. As a single dad with a developmentally disabled teenager, Kent was reluctant to move away from his son's school, not to mention the extended family he relied on for moral support.
But replacing the lost job has been difficult. One company let him go after four months because his son's medical appointments made him miss too much work. ("When you work in a high-pressure corporate environment, people aren't always as cool about that stuff," Kent said). Another job with more flexible hours was strictly temporary and came with a substantial drop in pay and responsibility ("I was essentially a clerk," he said).
Sure, some work is better than none these days. But this single father says he can't help feeling that he's been involuntarily daddy-tracked -- and that he's facing a bit of a double-standard.
"Obviously, women are forced into gender roles," he said. "But men are forced into gender roles, too. There's a lot of pressure on men that the job comes first. I feel like a strange bird as a single father who's dedicated all this time and energy raising my son. That's unfortunate."
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