C.K.: Well being a dad made me not so concerned with myself anymore. When people have kids they get into a competition with their own children for their own energy and priorities. They think the kids are taking something away from them. But if you just let it go -- of COURSE your kids are more important than you. Just accept the premise that your kids are more important. And I say no to jobs all the time, because I have to go to ballet or whatever it is.
Since I've made that choice, my career has gone through the roof, because if you approach something like show business like, "I'll do whatever these people want me to do," or "Whatever it is, I'll take it!" you just end up chasing weird trajectories. I could have done a second-tier part in a sitcom in Los Angeles and I would have lived out there and people would have said, "Yeah that was pretty good," and I would have made some money. That would all be gone now, but because I said, "I don't leave New York, and I only work three and a half days a week," I held out until I got this show that's in New York. I don't work for other people. I make my own schedule. That's why the show is good.
Weir: Chris Rock said you're the only white comic who can get away with saying the "n" word. Why?
C.K.: I don't know, because, I'm exploring it. The fact that it's a terrible word to say and it hurt a lot of people makes it worth talking about. Everything that's awful -- really the best thing you could do is talk about it and discuss, "Why does it hurt so much? Why do people talk about it this way? Where did it come from?" That's usually when I've used that word on stage, I've usually approached it like that, "let's talk about that word, it's worth talking about" or I use it in an absurd way. It's cyclical. People become more puritanical periodically.
You know, Mark Twain's "Huck Finn" gets censored every 10, 20 years. You have to accept it. I'm not one of these comics that's like, "Hey, don't tell me what to say!" I understand people get upset. I understand. I just I have to keep doing what I do. It's a very Darwinist system. If I upset enough people I won't sell anymore products or tickets and I'll disappear.
Weir: You joke about your non-sex life, but with this new fame you must be getting more game.
C.K.: I get emails from women that say, "I want to have sex with you." I kind of know what the shape of an email like that looks like now so I don't really read it. There's always an attachment. It always starts with, "I've never written a celebrity before in my life."
I don't think I want to get laid as much because that's very intimate to be with somebody. When I first got divorced, I f---ed around. It was fun but then I quickly realized when you're 44 and you have a life and you have kids you're like, "There's a stranger in my bed. That is not cool, and we're naked. This is a nightmare, I don't know her, I want to know someone way better before I do this again." So I can wait to get laid. I got kids. I got a job. I'll be alright.