Dear 'GMA' Advice Guru Top 20 Finalists: Kimberly Giles

He doesn't value her more, he fears her more and that's a good thing! He feels safer with you. You can help him want to change this but you can't take it personally and you must stay calm and loving (this requires maturity on your part.) Are you up for it? Ask him questions about how this situation makes him feel. Ask him what emotions it brings up in regards to his mother. What does he worry about? Why? Can he see how you might feel? He may be able to see what he is doing wrong, if you create a safe place (where he's not in trouble) and get him talking about how it makes him feel. He will see how it makes you feel and decide to fix it himself. It's always better to have him figure out what he's doing wrong, then to have you tell him.

What would you tell this person: "While cleaning my son's room, I accidentally saw on his Facebook page threatening remarks from his friends. I fear he's being bullied. What should I do?"

You should talk to him but you should be very respectful and calm when you do. This is his business -- it's not about you and your fears! You must set your fears aside. Then ask him if he would be open to talk to you. Tell him the truth -- you were in his room and saw his computer, you shouldn't have looked but you did -- so now you just want to know how he feels and what he thinks about it. Make sure that this is about what he thinks and feels it's his life! Just listen. You may ask questions but you may not give your opinion or advice unless you ask permission first. "Would you be open to some advice from your old Mom?" This way you can offer help but still honor and respect who he is.

What would you tell this person: "My boss keeps taking credit for my ideas. What should I do?"

Do the unexpected! At this point your boss is scared and uncomfortable around you -- he knows what he's done. He's scared. If you go on the attack now you will just trigger him to get defensive and you won't get anywhere -- except maybe fired. So my advice is to do the opposite. Kill him with kindness! It will throw him off completely. Reach out with love, offer more help, even give him your ideas and say, "Hey why don't you take credit for that one!" Choose to love this very scared person. This will start to create a different kind of energy between you. From this new place you can ask permission to talk about future ideas and share how it makes you feel. He will feel safer now and will be more able to show up for you.

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