'Dear GMA' Entry: Are You Our Next Advice Guru?

Sept. 21, 2010 — -- "Good Morning America" is launching a nationwide search for a 21st century Advice Guru.

This is a full time, on-air position at "GMA." You could sit next to George and Robin and be a part of the "GMA" Team!

Over the next few weeks, we'll be featuring some of your entries on the website.

Check out this one from Heather Gates in Fox River Grove, Ill.

What's the best advice you have ever given? What was the result?

One day a woman came into my office dismayed by the lack of affection and attention from her guy. I listened and came to discover that while there was clearly love and respect there, with time the romance had faded significantly.

I asked her, "Have you thought about having a steamy, hot love affair with yourself?" I suggested she take some attention away from him and the relationship and shower herself with love. Send herself flowers, make herself a lovely, candlelit dinner and take time to pamper and take care of herself, etc. ... She agreed, hesitantly. The "affair" not only lifted her spirits but made her look and feel better -- more empowered. A life change. As a side effect, the guy took notice and the romance and appreciation was back. Most importantly, she committed to take time to love herself equally and it has made her a more confident, healthier person!

What would you tell his person: "Whenever there is an issue between my mother-in-law and me, my husband refuses to stand up for me. How do I get him to value our relationship more than the one with his mother?

You don't. Forcing your husband to take sides will only create conflict between you and him and that's not what you want, and it may be what his mom wants! Try to value the respect he has for his mom and appreciate that it's the example he's giving your children. Try to bring her into decisions that you are comfortable with and where she may add value -- like cooking or decorating advice. But when you ask her, always present you and your hubby as a united front -- "Bill and I are couch shopping" ... or "I'd like to surprise Bill by preparing his favorite childhood dish." She'll love you for seeking her council and for the love you have for her son. Wouldn't you, even if begrudgingly? You may even develop your own respect and admiration for her. She must have done some things right -- she raised the man YOU chose to marry.