Readers Respond: Plight of caring for aging parents touched many

I am 29 years old, and I have been caring for my mother for the past 7 years. She is only 56 years old, but due to many mental and physical problems became unable to work or fully care for herself years ago. The road I have traveled has been more difficult then I even could have imagined in the beginning. My mother has been taken into emergency custody by the state half a dozen times, but every time they hold her for 72 hours and let her go. Because her primary problems are mental conditions and not a physical one the courts won't declare her incompetent. I have some control, but don't have the ability to place her into assisted living. She refuses to leave the only home she has known for 30 years. We tried in-home workers, but after 3 tries with various problems my Mom won't let me put another one the home. I live 5 hours away due to my job, and my only sister does nothing to help. I travel home frequently (usually twice a month), I call everyday. My mom lives in a small town and I am luck that some people in town have been good to her and help where they can. I manage her finances with an iron fist, making sure to save every dime ?just in case?. She is fortunate to have a paid for house and no debt, but when the day does come that long term or more aggressive care is needed I don?t know what we will do. The effect this has had on my entire life has been overwhelming; sometimes I just sit and cry. But those moments are rare, I know that she cared for me and raised me for 18 years; this is now the time she needs me to be there for her.


Join the Discussion
You are using an outdated version of Internet Explorer. Please click here to upgrade your browser in order to comment.
blog comments powered by Disqus
You Might Also Like...