What Are Some Tips That Will Help My Partner And I Communicate Better?

Question: What are some tips that will help my partner and I communicate better?

Answer: The most important thing is just not to get into a nasty back and forth way of communicating. Anger begets anger, resentment begets resentment. So, in general, the key is to ask for small changes. It's not a shameful thing to ask for what you want, but say it positively. You want to give the other person some outline of what they can do to make you happy. So, say, "I would love it, I feel really good if you would do X, Y or Z," not, "I'm so disappointed in you" or, "you're such a sloppy housekeeper." So, phrase it positively.

Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., Certified Sex Therapist, sexsmart.com


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