Carolyn and Sean Savage Expecting Twins With Surrogate; Relief After 2009 Embryo Mix-Up


Six weeks into the pregnancy, Carolyn developed a clot in her uterus that could have threatened the fetus. The Savages provided the Morells with weekly updates.

"We kept assuring them we wouldn't terminate and would never fight for custody," said Carolyn. "But Sean and I were emotionally tapped."

So far, they have had two visits with Logan, who is now 19 months old. The Savages have no formal agreement with the Morells about future visits, or whether Logan will ever know the truth about his birth. "His mom and dad will decide what's best for him," said Sean.

Safety Protocols for IVF

The Savages say they have had to start their lives up again with their three children -- Drew, now 16; Ryan, 13; and Mary Kate, 2. Though they've received support from their church and friends, sometimes the simplest things throw the Savages off guard.

"It was the like the elephant in the living room," said Carolyn. "People were so terrified of saying the wrong thing. Anytime there is a challenging situation or a loss, people don't know what to say. I still feel that now."

As part of the settlement, the clinic agreed to provide assurances in writing that new protocols would be established.

In their book, the Savages encourage those seeking IVF to have pointed conversations with doctors regarding how their embryos are handled.

"We were lucky to come out the other side of this," said Carolyn. "Make no mistake. What happened, the mistake at the clinic, the pregnancy and loss of Logan, we will have to live with this for the rest of our lives. As time goes on, we'll be better at weaving it into the fabric of our lives."

"It was an unacceptable, cruel situation to be put in," said Sean. "I don't want anyone to think it was an easy road to walk. But, still, we got through it and our decision was fundamentally good."

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