According to Parker, it's common for people to invalidate their own feelings with this sort of thinking. "On the one hand they can acknowledge they're feeling bad about their situation and on the other hand, they assume they don't have the right to feel the way they do because there are others who have it worse."
Recognizing that others have had a rougher go than you can be comforting. Parker said it makes you grateful for what you have left. But she cautioned against minimizing your own hardships.
"You still have the right to feel upset and anxious about everything you're going through."
Parker also encouraged anyone who's waiting out the aftereffects of the storm to give themselves credit for holding it together and doing what they need to do for themselves and their families to make it through.
"Keep looking forward and keep reminding yourself, It's not forever," she said.
That's just what Devine is trying to do.
"I just try to focus on the gratitude and remind myself that at the end of the day, this will all be a distant memory someday."