Why Women Stand by Their Men
Silda Wall Spitzer is the latest wife to stand by her man during a scandal.
March 11, 2008 — -- Silda Wall Spitzer is in good company.
There's Sen. Larry Craig's wife; Suzanne; former New Jersey Gov. Jim McGreevey's wife, Dina; and Sen. Hillary Clinton, to name a few.
All are women who have stood by their men, all high-powered politicians accused of straying from home and hearth to pursue relationships with another woman or man.
Monday, Silda Wall Spitzer did the same, standing beside her husband, New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer, as he apologized for letting down his family and the public after a federal investigation linked him to a ring of high-priced call girls.
It has quickly become the norm, say several political gurus, for politicians' wives to stand by their men in the midst of scandal, presenting a united front publicly as their personal lives crumble behind closed doors.
"Most times when this happens to the average woman, they'll leave the relationship," said Gemma Puglisi, a communications expert and associate professor at American University in Washington, D.C. "But with these high-profile cases, everything is at stake -- the job, the prestige -- and so it's almost the norm for the wife to stand there and say, 'Yes, he was wrong, but I forgive him.'"
"If [the couple] has children and they've had a relationship for a long time, then how do you walk away from it if you really care about the person?" said Puglisi. "A lot of women criticized Hillary when she didn't say something, but in the long haul these women feel that it's what's best for the family and them and the husband in the relationship."
The Spitzers have been married for more than 20 years and have three daughters.
Dina Matos McGreevey, who in 2004 stood next to husband and New Jersey Gov. Jim McGreevey as he announced he was gay and would resign from his post, told ABCNEWS.com that these wives are all "victims" of their husbands.
"Their husbands have advisers and press people, and the wives are left to deal with this on their own," said McGreevey. "For me, it was like an earthquake that hit and my whole life crumbled."
