Finding Personal Time in the Business of Saving Lives

When patients come first, it can complicate a doctor's home life.

ByABC News
July 9, 2008, 5:17 PM

July 10, 2008— -- Dr. Brian Bethea has to stay up all night again.

But after attending to patients in their hospital beds, his thoughts turn to tucking in his little girl at home. "Got a big game tomorrow right? I'll be there," Bethea says on the phone to his daughter while sitting in his empty office. "You've got to keep your emotions in control. I love you too. Get in bed!"

The scene of fathers parenting over the phone in between meetings and making promises to be home even when they're not sure they can be kept takes place across America every day.

Bethea knows it all too well and had a particularly hard time striking the work-life balance while he was training to be a heart and lung surgeon at Johns Hopkins. Bethea who finished his residency in June and has since found a way to make more time for his family was stretched thin back then.

During that period, Bethea tried to share house duties with his wife, a physician assistant, such as taking their daughters, ages 11, 10 and 7, to sports practices all while working a 100-hour week. But he just wasn't able to do it all.

"You've got to put the patients first, so it makes everything else your family, yourself, everything by definition, second. It's unpredictable; we don't have a start and stop point to every day," Bethea said.

"What is happening is almost a perfect storm of factors we're seeing so many more dads taking a more active parenting role because wives are also in the workplace," said Susan Seitel, president of WFC Resources, an organization that helps train companies on work-life balance issues. "June Cleaver is dead."

Another factor in that perfect storm, Seitel noted, is the current recessionary economy combined with a skilled-employee shortage, particularly in health care.

The result is even a profession like medicine, which is traditionally defined by long hours, is waking up to the fact that the profession must adapt to both women and men demanding more of a work-life balance.