Three Cups of Tea: Ticket to Education

Perhaps the biggest cleft of difference between here and there, for Naseer, was created at 8:50 a.m. on Oct. 8, 2005, when the comfortable life she and her family had with her landowner uncle became much more like that of the struggling masses. Naseer was writing on a blackboard, teaching in a village near her own when she felt the floor rattling.

"Run!" she yelled as she and her 5- and 6-year-old girls scrambled out seconds before the building collapsed in a whoosh of choking dust. One girl died at that school, but 70,000 people died in the quake throughout Kashmir.

Naseer frantically ran home, stumbling past wailing mourners to find her family of 10 sitting in front of their collapsed home.

"It was a really bad moment in my life," she recalls of the days Naseer's family and 30 neighbors hovered under a large sheet, hiding from nasty weather and mourning, taking turns digging through rubble for food.

With all the schools leveled and the road to Muzaffarabad blocked, life became a daily struggle just to survive. It has continued that way for Naseer until she landed here in August, greeted by the startling availability of food, entertainment, and, most important, the freedom to come out of her shell.

She admits that she misses her family. But the thought of returning after the freedom she's experiencing is daunting – especially with an arranged marriage. "If I chose not to, I would be expelled from my family and village. Most girls just say 'OK,' "she explains.

Naseer has had two public speaking events and more are lined up. Though speaking to groups is new to her, she says that it's part of the education she needs to take on a leadership role. "I like it," she says. "I know I must be confident to work for CAI, so I'm trying to do my best."

She also is taking tae kwon do. "I want to be strong," Naseer says. "It helps you with discipline … I like that. It gives you power." Power, perhaps, she can't experience at home.

"Here you have the freedom to do anything you want," Naseer continues. "It feels good. I'm here to learn different things. I want to get experience about everything."