Mother-Daughter Clubbing: Fun Family Bonding or Unhealthy Relationship?


"I had my children young, but I also was out at the clubs when I was younger," Deangelo said. "I've been there, done that, so I'm not looking to recapture anything."

She called her 29-year-old daughter, Gina, her best friend, and their mother-daughter relationship was showcased with other like-minded women on the VH1 reality show "Mama Drama." Deangelo said she grew closer to her daughter after her divorce.

"I was with my ex-husband for 30 years. I've gone through so much s**t, and the saddest part is she had to go through everything with me," Gina said. "We've been the rock for each other."

Family therapists say theirs is a common mother-daughter dynamic in the aftermath of a divorce.

"Many of the women that go partying and go clubbing with their daughters are divorced women," Smerling said. "Perhaps [they are] looking for a companion to replace all the years that they were married."

But, Smerling cautioned, if the mother is divorced, then the daughter might feel pressure to pick them back up.

"Subconsciously, that means that the daughter is now responsible for making her mother happy, and making sure that her mother has a good time, when at that age she should be worried about whether she has a good time," she said.

Nicole Levine is also divorced but said that her kids were too young to have it affect them now. But when she was in her 20s, she had too much going on to go clubbing. Instead, she took care of the kids and threw herself into work.

"When I got divorced with two kids I was 26 years old," she said. "I was broke. I really, really was very, very poor. ... I was so desperate to make money and actually be able to pay my rent that the business just grew."

Nicole went from cleaning offices to owning a hugely successful cleaning company. She was even named the National Association of Women Business Owner's "New York Business Woman of the Year" in 2011. So as she went from rages to riches, Nicole rediscovered the fun-loving youthful side of herself she had long neglected.

"Being that I had to work my whole life and I didn't think about entertainment and I didn't think about going out, that stuff didn't matter to me it was so far for me," she said. "All of a sudden I reached 40, and I realized that I love dancing and I love to go out and I love doing things."

Now Nicole said she is vowing to spend her money enjoying herself with her kids. She and Vanesa recently traveled the world, from Brazil to Prague, checking out the club scene together along the way.

"What did Marilyn Monroe say?" Nicole said.

Vanesa responded, "'I'd rather be absolutely ridiculous ...'"

"'Than absolutely boring,'" Nicole finished.

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