"I remember being in junior high and calling Grant Hill in his dorm room," Frasher recalled. "'I'm having some boy trouble, and excuse me, Grant, could you take some time away from being an all-American and doing your calculus or whatever to talk to me about boys!' and he did! And he gave me advice and we talked. He was a great big brother, role model kind of person."
Chances are any player not comfortable with the Krzyzewski family rules never ends up at Duke to begin with. A semi-official stop for all recruits is to come to the Krzyzewski home and meet the family, Mickie said.
"Our family meets every recruit before he commits to coming to Duke," she said. "No matter what else they do they come to my house and they meet the daughters and grandkids."
There have even been times when a prospective player was given a thumbs down by the family, Mickie revealed.
The Blue Devils have become the college basketball team that fans around the country love to hate. They squashed Butler's Cinderella story, beating them in the NCAA finals this year, and generally they win. To some, their pride in the system borders on aloof, if not arrogant.
Krzyzewski has been booed on the court and portrayed in papers as the big, bad coach. In April, the Indianapolis Star published an illustration of Krzyzewski with horns and a bull's eye drawn on his head; the paper later apologized.
To him, it's part of the game. "I understand it. I would rather be booed for being good than booed for being bad," he said.
But it's something his family will never get used to.
"I think the hardest part has been the negativity that has come about in the media quite a bit and in the public. Things that are said about him, caricatures, dreadful things are said about him and that's been hard," Mickie said. "Route against Duke, but the level of hatred is really uncalled for and the nasty things that get said, that's really uncalled for."
Mickie and the girls don't see what upsets people so much about the men's basketball coach who has a "Dreamgirls" CD in his office.
"He's got some good moves. Usually it's Motown. He's a big Motown guy, a big Smokey Robinson. That's like his favorite," Frasher said. "When he's really feeling it then he'll get up and bust a move, it's great."
"When we get together as a family and have an evening when nobody is around but us, he will attempt to sing which he's really bad at he needs to stick to coaching!" Mickie said. "Singing is not going to be a career for him."
What he thinks about is not the 868 wins, or the big salary or the record that has made him an iconic figure on campus, or even what he wants his legacy to be.
"I would like people to think I was really good at what I did," he said. "I was honest and I competed every day."