'Stalker' Card: Scary or Sexist?

ByABC News
October 31, 2006, 6:27 PM

Oct. 31, 2006 — -- Maybe someone just thought it was funny, a good way to put a Halloween scare into a close friend, the cyber version of a fright wig.

But that's not the way I -- and a large number of other women -- saw it. We'd call it cyberstalking.

It was one of those electronic greeting cards you order online in which you fill in a few facts about the intended recipient (hair color, eyes, street where they live), and the personalized card pops up in their e-mail. Happy Halloween! Except that it wasn't a very good joke.

The card takes more than two minutes to play out, and it opens with a black screen. Eerie, menacing music plays in the background. And then the following words appear -- one line at a time ... in stark white typewriter type:

hi.how are you?

you don't know me

but I know you

I watch you

a lot

your every move

your every breath

does this make you uncomfortable?

I know all this because I sent one to myself to check it out. It was creepy. Bad creepy, not holiday creepy. And it went on:

you don't know me but I know you

… lynn

does it bother you that I know your beautiful blue eyes

your soft blonde hair

you can turn this off, you know

and I'll be gone

or will i?

maybe I'm nearby

oh, where is that again?

that's right, Columbus avenue.

i'm watching you.

Letty Cottin Pogrebin, author and a founder of Ms. Magazine, was one of those who sent a protest letter to American Greetings.

She explained her reaction in an e-mail to me: "Even though I sent the message to myself as a test, and even though I knew I'd put in my personal information and knew what I'd filled in, and where, I got the chills when my name came on the screen with that threatening music in the background. And when the text typed out my eye color, hair color, and street name, I swear I couldn't watch. It felt much too real."

Me too.

I even showed mine to a colleague who had to turn her head from the screen.

I don't know how many women contacted American Greetings to express their anger, but it must have been a flood, because the company said it pulled the card from their Web site last Saturday at 7 a.m. That didn't ban the nasty little zeroes and ones from continuing to wreak havoc: I sent mine to myself this afternoon. As of now, it seems to be gone. From that site.