Flying With Kids: How to Turn Holy Terrors Into Little Angels

PHOTO: Bring a handheld electronic device or laptop loaded with some of your childs favorite movies or TV shows, for an easy in-flight diversion.

You know the what's the matter with most children on planes? Absolutely nothing. They're kids, for goodness sake. But some act differently on a flight than at home.

Like the seat-kicker. The tantrum-in-the-aisle thrower. The dreaded screamer.

A lot of children simply haven't been properly prepped (I will not include babies here, since babies are going to do what they're going to do). Many difficulties can be avoided if kids know what to expect, and you know what to pack. And don't forget the magic either, which you'll see in my tips below.

The following information comes from family, friends and my own experiences traveling with my now 13-year-old daughter who's been flying since infancy (and has the elite miles status to prove it).

Preparing Kids for Flights

For all kids: If your child has never flown before, tell him or her what's going to happen both at the airport and on the plane. Include everything from luggage drop-off to lines at the gate and beyond. Fear of the unknown can cause anxiety in all of us, and some kids vent by acting out. Ease these fears by finding pictures of your plane to show older kids (check your reservation to see which aircraft you'll be flying) or show them seat configurations (SeatGuru is great for this).

For little ones, bedtime stories about the upcoming travel adventure are a must, and there are a zillion children's books on the topic. And while I can't personally recommend any, I've seen titles such as "My First Trip on an Airplane," so I know you'll find something. Another idea: Search for videos by typing in "what it's like to fly in a plane" to give kids a sense of what they'll see out the window (but review the video yourself first to make sure it's appropriate).

Airport security: If you treat security matter of factly, they will too. Brush up on the rules at TSA.gov so you'll know what you're talking about. Kids 12 and younger no longer have to take off their shoes, but they still have to put backpacks and stuffed animals on the conveyor belt. Reassure your child that his beloved sock monkey will reappear at the other end. If you have time before your trip, see if you qualify for the TSA's PreCheck or a government "trusted traveler" program, both of which offer a quicker security experience for a small fee.

The Talk: Ah, yes, The Talk. This is all about your expectations for your child's behavior. Stress that while this will be a fun trip, it will require an "indoor voice" and no horseplay will be allowed. Suggestion: Try burning off excess energy by walking little ones around at the airport, but stick close to your gate area. Of course, as every veteran parent knows, The Talk only goes so far, so consider indulging in a little bribery (see the "treats" section below).

Don't forget the magic - Part I: Most of us have been flying so long that we're immune to the wonder of it all. but it's still there, right outside the airplane window. Tell the kids about the fun of flying through clouds and seeing dollhouse-like cities below. It might even rekindle your own love of flying.

Packing Tips for Kids

Gum and hard candies: Pressure changes can hurt small ears at take-off and landing, which can sometimes be eased with gum or little candies. It's also a good time to feed infants or offer pacifiers.

Special treats: Time to haul out the stuff you might not normally want them to eat but how often do they fly? If they love fruit, terrific, but my experience is that the three Cs (cookies, chips and chocolate) are far more effective as diversions, and sometimes even bribes.

Food: Bring a meal from home if you'll be flying in coach because unless you're heading overseas, the only meal you'll get is one you pay for (and it might not be one your child will eat). Don't forget the napkins and wet wipes either.

Small toys and other diversions: Check out a big box drugstore for cheap, plastic figurines or inexpensive dolls or stuffed toys (I'm talking small stuff here that will fit in a purse or carry-on). There's nothing like a brand new toy to divert the attention of a seat-kicker. Then, haul out the crayons or markers and a pad of paper, pull down the tray table and ask your child to draw the plane (or better yet, a self-portrait on the plane).

Old favorites: A favorite stuffed animal can be a big help for getting kids to nap on the plane, but be careful about bringing a child's very favorite in case it gets misplaced. If you do bring a best buddy, tie a ribbon around the toy's neck with a card that includes your cell phone number. Call it Mr. Sock Monkey's special travel ID.

Don't forget the magic - Part II: Bring a handheld electronic device or laptop loaded with some of the kids' favorite movies or TV shows. Thanks to a recent easing of FAA rules, you'll be able to keep smaller devices on (in airplane mode) throughout the flight on an increasing number of airlines, though laptops must still be stowed during take-off and landing.

On the Plane

Aircraft tours: The days of visiting the cockpit are long over, but you can still sightsee with a trip down the aisle or a visit to the lavatory (for some reason, many kids find the lavatories fascinating). Warning: Do not stroll the aisles during beverage service when you might block a cart (or a harried flight attendant), and do not under any circumstances get out of your seat if the seatbelt sign is on.

Books and games: Most kids love being read to, so be sure your tablet or e-reader is loaded with favorites, and of course, there are always the original hard-coverbooks. Try some nonelectronic games, too. Older kids like trivia, and you can surf any number of sites to load yourself up with questions (try Googling "trivia game questions") or try alphabet games on smaller kids (name your favorite thing that begins with "A" and so on).

At Wit's End

When all else fails: If the kids are really acting up, don't ignore it. Nothing bugs your fellow passengers more than parents who just sit back and let kids go wild. If you look like you're trying to get the situation under control (even if it's not working), people will usually be understanding. Some may even offer to help! But yes, there are times when children cry and there's nothing you can do about it. Do your best to comfort them and take comfort in the thought that the plane trip won't last forever (it'll just seem like it).

Don't forget the magic - Part III: Adults-only magic: Cocktails! Sometimes buying a round of drinks (or snacks) for passengers near you can serve as an apology for kids who haven't taken The Talk to heart. I know some parents who swear by this method, though I've never had occasion to use it.

Ready to fly? Good, and remember, we were all kids once. Do what you can, but don't forget to have fun with your kids. They won't be kids forever.

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