In various Internet chats, he told friends that "idc" (an abbreviation for "I don't care") and "Im not really angry or sad idc." When his friend Tam replied, "What if he wants you, won't that get awk," Ravi replied, "Why would it be awk."
In another message he wrote, "F**K MY LIFE / He's gay," but qualified himself moments later, "I'm just like LOL / Maybe I'm still a little buzzed."
Ravi also sent Clementi a substantial text message, apologizing for his webcam intrustion, on the night of his death: "I've known you were gay and I have no problem with it. In fact one of my closest friends is gay and he and I have a very open relationship. I just suspected you were shy about it which is why I never broached the topic. I don't want your freshman year to be ruined because of a petty misunderstanding, it's adding to my guilt. You have a right to move if you wish but I don't want you to feel pressured to without fully understanding the situation."
Tension had risen between the roommates after Clementi brought a 25-year-old man who lived off campus into their shared dorm room. The two had connected via a hook-up site Adam4adam.
On Sept. 19, Clementi sent a text message to Ravi asking if he could use the room for the evening. Ravi agreed, but expressed skepticism to Molly Wei, a freshman living in the same dorm whom he'd known since grade school, about why his roommate needed the room. In her statement to police, Wei says Ravi worried that the man, only identified as M.B., might steal his iPad and seemed "really shady."
Wei, who was initially charged along with Ravi, has since agreed to cooperate with the state, testify against Ravi and avoid jail. Wei also promised to join an intervention program that requires her to perform 300 hours of community service over the next three years and undergo counseling for cyberbullying.
That night, Ravi used Wei's computer to access a webcam from his laptop that he had left in his own room.
At 9:13 p.m., Ravi activated a live unrecorded video image of his room while Wei sat nearby. Both saw Clementi and M.B. touching and kissing for a few seconds. Wei says in her statement: "I couldn't see any faces, and they were just what seemed to be kissing, and then, after literally two seconds, we just turned it off. And we were kind of both kind of in shock."
Four minutes later, Ravi tweeted, "Roommate asked for the room till midnight. I went into molly's room and turned on my webcam. I saw him making out with a dude. Yay."
Although Clementi may not have noticed the webcam that night, he did see Ravi's Twitter post the next day. Yet his chats with friend Hannah Yang indicate that he was largely dismissive of the incident:
Yang: I would feel seriously violated
Clementi: like wtf [what] did he think was gonna happen?.
Oh yah I gotcha
When I first read the tweet
I defs felt violated
When I rememberd what actually happened
Idk [I don't know]
Doesn't seem soooo bad lol
Yang: You guys really need to talk?
But its not like he left the cam on or recorded or anything
He just like took a five sec peep lol
He also sought feedback from the online community at Justusboys.
"I feel like the only thing the school might do is find me another roommate, probably with me moving out .. and I'd probably just end up with somebody worse than him ... I mean aside from being an a**hole from time to time, he's a pretty decent roommate," Clementi wrote in his post.