Exercise in Humiliation

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John Benshoe offered Daddario reassuring words: "Don't worry," he told her after he chased away the bullies. "I've been there before ... The reason they do that is because they don't like themselves."

Confront the Aggressors

So, what's the best approach? Wiseman said it's much better to confront the aggressors than the victim. If you speak exclusively to the person receiving the abuse, "they're probably going to say, 'I'm fine, I'm fine.' Because they have to deal with the bullies later. The adults don't."

Wiseman added, "It's much more effective to actually say to the bullies, 'This is what you need to do. You need to stop. You need to walk over there. I am calling the police.'"

Which is exactly what a man named Shawn Taylor did, in no uncertain terms. He strode up to the girls, open cell phone in hand, and addressed them in a serious tone.

"Girls, I'll give you about three minutes to clear this area," Taylor instructed, as his two young children looked on. "All three, clear the area ... let's go, move it. Leave the girl alone or you'll deal with the police."

It's hard to know what to do when witnessing a public and vicious word fight involving feisty teenage girls. But no matter the age, sex or appearance of the bullies, it's important to do something.

And what if it's your child who's being bullied? Wiseman said there are three key things to say to the victim: "I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Thank you for telling me ... And together, you and I are going to work this out."

Wiseman also suggests that the parent help the bullied child decide what to say to the perpetrator, and also choose a location where the confrontation should take place.

So, who learned more, the people passing by, or our actors?

Goober told us, "I've always tried to stick up for people, and it's so hard when your friends are the ones picking on this girl. You could lose a friendship. Now, especially from this experience, I will totally stick up [for the victim], no matter what. Because seeing people just walk away, I was like, 'never again, never again.'"

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