Comments on: Single Black Female: ‘Nightline’ Face-off Set

By: Heather Taylor

Heather Taylor — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 23:28:57 +0000

As a black women, it is just as difficult to survive in everyday life as a black man. Now, black men are finding every excuse in the book to date outside of their race exclusively. Let’s face it black men no longer find us black women attractive. In addition, they put us down like we are nothing. Look at Chris Rock. He is a disgrace for talking so badly about black women. He acts as if he hates black women and black people in general. I have heard black men talk badly about us saying we have hair issues such as wearing dreadlocks, braids, and too many hair extensions.

By: kymelle

kymelle — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 20:28:24 +0000

There’s a problem in the black community. And indeed, it’s the black man and/or lack there of. “They” are quick to diagnose black women as bitter, many available using it as an excuse to date outside the race, fueled by the get a “becky” music/NBA industry. But unfortunately, the black man is ominous, mythological or ill-intended- and are not representing positive aspects of healthy relationships.
It’s not just one or two begrudgeful black women. But, the countless numbers of single black women, generations of them, who are good, educated and well deserving, are the true indicators of something being wrong with the black man.
Black men and the black woman’s struggles with them are an embarrassing joke the world-over.

By: GK

GK — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 17:07:53 +0000

There were SO many things wrong with this “Nightline” report. It’s an example of terrible journalism. Here are the three biggest things that were wrong with this report:
1. Steve Harvey was the only “expert” they interviewed. STEVE HARVEY? This is man who has a history of nasty divorces, indifelity and abusive behavior. And they call him a “romance expert,” just because he has a best-selling book. Clearly, the people who put together this report don’t know that old adage: “Actions speak louder than words.”
2. There were no single, successful men interviewed. These are the kind of men that these women presumably want to marry. So where were these men in this report? NOWHERE! Did we get to hear what THEY want in a black woman? NO!
3. The report focused a lot on the careers that the women have and what they want in a man, but the report didn’t do any investigating into what these women are REALLY like in a relationship. We only got to hear THEIR side of why they aren’t married. And of course, these women are going to make it sound like they’re a perfect catch and that black men are commitment-phobic.
Why not interview family members, friends and ex-boyfriends of these women to get a truer picture of how these women really are when it comes to dating? “Nightline” didn’t do ANY of that.
It’s no wonder that people got so upset over this show, because this report was so incredibly one-sided and obviously produced by people with an agenda to make black men look bad.

By: cass

cass — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 09:06:15 +0000

this is embrassing, look go outside your race. Listen to steve go older. If you love the man and he knows how to love you , it doesn’t matter if he is short or tall black or white. Now that doesn’t mean you settle for some mess. white women are having the same problems

By: Yvonne

Yvonne — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 12:29:03 +0000

First of all a BLACK woman shouldnt have a sales pitch to get a man. What is she buying?? I get tired of hearing others say this and that about women but NEVER walked in their shoes. This is SO old!! There are always 2 sides to every story about why certain women cant find a good man! Some women dont and wont settle. Some women know EXACTLY what needs to be done to be a good woman and to have a nuturing relationship but the man dont so the woman doesnt waste her time. Its so many different scenerios to this same story…

By: Bello Barriga

Bello Barriga — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 23:59:36 +0000

Please get on with life as it has been apportioned to you, marriage is not for everybody, same reason wealth or success is not for everybody. I am certain someone out there will trade place with you – give her your success, she will gladly give you her husband.

By: Drew

Drew — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 15:10:28 +0000

I totally agree with my brother Dr. Lee. Does every black woman really think they she is called to be married? Why do all black women seem like they want to get married and all black dudes don’t? Can the black woman invest in the black gentleman who has “potential” by helping him get trained or use her contacts to help him be as successful as she is? I understand that a woman is a successful corporate exec or whatever, but does she take the time to learn what it takes to be a good wife or what it takes to have a successful relationship. Do these single black women even understand how to “take care” of a black man or keep him? I always hear about what these women are looking for but these discussions never include what the black woman is offering. Maybe her sales pitch is off because she would be better served if she talked about what she could offer a black man rather that what she is looking for. Women are naturally receivers and not givers so they generally operate in the mindset of receiving. I suggest they adjust their perspective if they are not receiving what they are looking for

By: Cherise

Cherise — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 14:04:20 +0000

Until strong independent black women show that we don’t have to prove anything. Until we become comfortable in our own skin. Until we choose to do marriage first and then children. Until we expect the same thing from our man as we do ourselves. We will never find the man we expect to share our lives with.

By: Knight3k

Knight3k — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 13:59:19 +0000

If I may, I am going to say something that may be provocative but at the same time needs to be said. There are good brothers out here, and at the risk of being presumptuous I am admittedly one of them. I am finishing my Ph.D. and am looking for a job that allows me to make good coin for me and my son (my wife and I are in the midst of a separation) while also providing me a sense of dignity. That said–in many cases when sisters (high maintenance sisters included) have a good man, they don’t know what to do with them. In some cases (at least mine) my wife was among the same category of these women– Ph.D. in Educational Psychology, working at a university making good coin. Long story short, in my case, I considered myself a work in progress; however, lack of patience and lack of vision and lack of focus pretty much caused tensions. I share all that to say our that our “high maintenance” really need a dose of reality and need to stop thinking about their biological clocks and look at brothers not as ATMS, or sperm banks. Relationships particularly with non-predatory brothers, take time, energy, and a sense of humility and love.

By: Lee

Lee — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 11:02:39 +0000

“…comedian/romance expert Steve Harvey ….” Romance expert? Please….