By Eamon McNiff

Apr 15, 2010 10:44am

Judge Rules Joseph Reyes Can Take Daughter to Church

ABC News’ Lauren Pearle Reports:

Joseph Reyes can now legally take his 3-year-old daughter to church, a Chicago Judge ruled yesterday.

Judge Renee Goldfarb had previously denied Joseph’s request to take his daughter, Ela, to church with him including on Easter Sunday.  But in her Tuesday decision dissolving Joseph and Rebecca Reyes’ marriage, Goldfarb changed that ruling, saying that Joseph’s church visits did not harm the child. 

Goldfarb believed Joseph’s argument that during church the toddler simply “waves at the other children, looks around and giggles” and wrote that it was in Ela’s best interest to give Joseph unrestricted visitation.

When the Reyes’ were married, Joseph converted to Judaism, and according to Rebecca Reyes, they agreed to raise Ela Jewish.

After the marriage fell apart, the couple became entrenched in a bitter divorce which escalated after Joseph had Ela baptized in November because he said he wanted to return to his Catholic roots. Rebecca then got a court order forbidding Joseph from exposing Ela to any religion other than Judaism, an order Joseph allegedly violated by taking Ela to church in February.  Tuesday’s ruling voids that order.

Although Joseph is now allowed to take his daughter to church, Goldfarb’s 30-page ruling included harsh criticism of the father.

“Joseph, at times, seems to choose what is in the best interest of Joseph, rather than what is in the best interests of Ela,” the judge wrote.
 
Goldfarb also noted that Joseph Reyes “chose” not to have visitation with Ela for a six-month span, and that he chose “not to get a job to help support Ela.”

She also criticized Joseph’s use of the media, including bringing along a TV news crew when he took Ela to church in February.

 “Joseph chose to make three-year-old Ela the center of his own media event, as seen on every local news channel, print media and national news channels during his visitation,” Goldfarb wrote. “Joseph chose to dispense three-year-old Ela’s picture to the media.”

According to her lawyer, Steven Lake of the firm Lake Toback, Rebecca is satisfied with the judge’s ruling.

“If you read the entire opinion, the judge was highly critical of Mr. Reyes’ poor judgment and decision-making.  He didn’t condone anything Joseph had done in the past like the  baptism and not being honest with priest,” Lake told ABC News.
 
“Time will tell if Joseph will respect that Ela is to be raised Jewish and not undermine that.” 

Joseph Reyes was not immediately available for comment.

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User Comments

The judge made the right decision after giving it a second thought. The court system cannot resolve religious disputes. People are free to practice their religion in the USA. The idea that this little girl will be raised traditional Jewish has gone out the window with her parents marriage. It doesn’t really matter. When this girl turns 18, she will choose for herself. In the meantime, these parents have to make a life for their daughter. Honoring their respective religions might actually help them in this case. Like the song says, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.”

Posted by: Sean O'Brien | April 15, 2010, 1:30 pm 1:30 pm

the fact that the father went to the media was his only recourse. The jugde can blame herself for that. He is the legal father. He can worship as he wishes and he has every right to take his minor children just as the mother does. Exwives dont get to take constitutional rights away from their ex husbands. Ridiculously stupid ruling in the first place. This was not so much a ruling for Joseph as it was a ruling to save herself embarressment when it get overturned in upper court with a strong rebuke against the judge! This was the judge trying to save their own career

Posted by: lets all be honest here | April 15, 2010, 1:35 pm 1:35 pm

To the whack-job wife: You’re supposed to love your child more than you hate your ex-husband. Sounds like you enjoy making everyone around you miserable. Feel sorry for your child with a mother like you.

Posted by: leogorky | April 15, 2010, 2:24 pm 2:24 pm

Wonder what the ruling would have been if he hadn’t brought the media?

Posted by: beth | April 15, 2010, 2:26 pm 2:26 pm

This would have been the right decision if the father hadn’t, in bad faith, had the girl baptized.
At that point, however, when he violated the court-approved arrangements he and her mother had made for her religious upbringing, it became clear that he could no longer be trusted in that regard. Judge Goldfarb should have found him to have forfeited his rights to participate in the religious part of his daughter’s life until she is 18.

Posted by: Lisa | April 15, 2010, 2:57 pm 2:57 pm

The judge got it right, the ex-husband cares more about himself than his child. Seems to me the mother cares more about her child than anything else. She just wants what is best for her. And forcing her deadbeat ex into living with a previous agreement is showing her daughter that you don’t renege on agreements that are made, whether you like it or not. She is teaching her daughter honor, which is more than her ex has.

Posted by: Me | April 15, 2010, 2:58 pm 2:58 pm

I don’t know “ME”, when is it in the best interest to demand that a child be raised against her fathers wishes in a religion of the mother only. It appears to me that the mother is just as irresponsible as anyone and “honor” has nothing to do with the situation.

Posted by: JR | April 15, 2010, 3:47 pm 3:47 pm

It’s right there in the list of qualifications for a successful marriage: both parents should have the SAME religion. If you can’t agree on something as important as that, how are you going to agree on any of the million and one other things that can kill a loving relationship?

Posted by: wantingbalance | April 15, 2010, 4:51 pm 4:51 pm

I cannot begin to state how disgusted I am over this. This man deliberately violated an agreement he made, and was obviously only dragging his daughter to church to anger the mother – he took PICTURES of her “baptism” for crying out loud! How much more obvious does it have to be?
All you who are whining about how horrible the mother is – would you be doing the same if she were Christian & the man were Muslim? I’m betting NOT!!

Posted by: Susan | June 7, 2010, 2:27 pm 2:27 pm

I feel sorry for the poor child in the midst of all this…

Posted by: Cindy | July 1, 2010, 12:02 pm 12:02 pm

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