Comments on: Princeton Alumna Susan Patton Urges Women to Snag Husband on Campus Before Graduating http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/ The latest Headlines, news and blog posts from ABC News contributors and bloggers. Wed, 20 Aug 2014 19:40:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: James http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10989875 James Thu, 02 May 2013 18:24:20 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10989875 "Girls do want to date guys who are as smart or smarter than them, but in practicality, we are all way too young to be getting married now,” one female student told ABC News." Obviously she did not say to get married right then in there. What she meant was to find a guy that is husband potential and through time, hopefully things will naturally take its course without any rush. “Girls do want to date guys who are as smart or smarter than them, but in practicality, we are all way too young to be getting married now,” one female student told ABC News.”

Obviously she did not say to get married right then in there. What she meant was to find a guy that is husband potential and through time, hopefully things will naturally take its course without any rush.

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By: sandra http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10927121 sandra Mon, 22 Apr 2013 20:03:58 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10927121 I used to think Spell was bogus but after Kim left me I felt open-minded to try it. Maybe I was desperate too. But this is real! In just 3 days hours, priest Aluta restored the love we had for each other back. I didn't expect the spell would work so fast. it has only just 3 days since you cast the spell and Kim is already after me!! Since last week-end she phoned at least 5 times. I believe she seems to realize her mistakes. It's absolutely happening as you said!! Thank you! Your work is helping me so much… Without you I would feel so lonely and miserable... Thank you! his email is traditionalspellhospital (AT) gmail com I used to think Spell was bogus but after Kim left me I felt open-minded to try it. Maybe I was desperate too. But this is real! In just 3 days hours, priest Aluta restored the love we had for each other back. I didn’t expect the spell would work so fast. it has only just 3 days since you cast the spell and Kim is already after me!! Since last week-end she phoned at least 5 times. I believe she seems to realize her mistakes. It’s absolutely happening as you said!! Thank you! Your work is helping me so much… Without you I would feel so lonely and miserable… Thank you! his email is traditionalspellhospital (AT) gmail com

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By: Dean http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10775823 Dean Fri, 05 Apr 2013 01:42:27 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10775823 This coming from a divorcee? This coming from a divorcee?

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By: Adriana Saavedra http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10767828 Adriana Saavedra Wed, 03 Apr 2013 18:21:04 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10767828 All right, I managed to grab a husband from an ivy league college who is so darn "intelligent" that has a way to reap the system making enough money to give me a choice to stay at home to raise our kids. Then I burnt out precisely because I became a stay home mom and finally... he divorces me to find a younger and sexier partner... The way things are currently set up for women is a lose lose situation no matter what... at the end is not about ending up married with a smart guy but about how an educated female reproductive life can be balanced out while staying intellectually stimulated and engaged with her whole community and not just as a part of an elite group. All right, I managed to grab a husband from an ivy league college who is so darn “intelligent” that has a way to reap the system making enough money to give me a choice to stay at home to raise our kids. Then I burnt out precisely because I became a stay home mom and finally… he divorces me to find a younger and sexier partner… The way things are currently set up for women is a lose lose situation no matter what… at the end is not about ending up married with a smart guy but about how an educated female reproductive life can be balanced out while staying intellectually stimulated and engaged with her whole community and not just as a part of an elite group.

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By: judy http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10766855 judy Wed, 03 Apr 2013 14:20:00 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10766855 If you marry before you are financially secure, he can beat or verbally mistreat you and there is nothing you can do about it. the police can only hold the man for so long and it will only inflame him and he can beat you worse. it is difficult to get into a domestic abuse shelter and they have time limits on how long you can stay. EDUCATED MEN DO BEAT THEIR WIVES If you marry before you are financially secure, he can beat or verbally mistreat you and there is nothing you can do about it. the police can only hold the man for so long and it will only inflame him and he can beat you worse. it is difficult to get into a domestic abuse shelter and they have time limits on how long you can stay. EDUCATED MEN DO BEAT THEIR WIVES

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By: KCB http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10759736 KCB Tue, 02 Apr 2013 14:40:34 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10759736 As a girl who also went to an extremely prestigious university, I believe this woman gave good advice. I started dating my man our freshman year while my closest friends just wanted to "enjoy being freshmen". On Friday nights I would still go to parties, but I would leave early to head back to my boyfriend's place while they hooked up with guys who didn't remember their names in the morning. As the years passed, I spent countless nights comforting my friends while they cried about how they couldn't find a boyfriend. All the good ones were snatched up freshman year, and there was a reason the rest were still single. After graduation, most of my friends in relationships, including myself, decided that graduation did not automatically mean marriage. Instead, I went to graduate school. I'm now engaged, and the wedding will take place when I'm 25, 7 years after meeting my man. All my friends who graduated college without a boy are still single. They've tried dating sites, the bars, and their work, but they all complain that the pool is so much worse compared to when they were in college. Now that I am in the workforce and meeting more men, I am so glad that I met my future husband in college. As a woman, I expect my man to be at least as smart as me, if not smarter. I also expect him to be making at least what I make. That's what I found at school. When I go to the bar with friends, guys will sit down next to me and try to talk themselves up because they think I'm just a cute face. Until they learn I have a masters in engineering and make triple their salaries. While I would never think of these guys as potential mates, my friends with similar qualities are forced to because they are becoming desperate. As a girl who also went to an extremely prestigious university, I believe this woman gave good advice. I started dating my man our freshman year while my closest friends just wanted to “enjoy being freshmen”. On Friday nights I would still go to parties, but I would leave early to head back to my boyfriend’s place while they hooked up with guys who didn’t remember their names in the morning. As the years passed, I spent countless nights comforting my friends while they cried about how they couldn’t find a boyfriend. All the good ones were snatched up freshman year, and there was a reason the rest were still single. After graduation, most of my friends in relationships, including myself, decided that graduation did not automatically mean marriage. Instead, I went to graduate school. I’m now engaged, and the wedding will take place when I’m 25, 7 years after meeting my man. All my friends who graduated college without a boy are still single. They’ve tried dating sites, the bars, and their work, but they all complain that the pool is so much worse compared to when they were in college.

Now that I am in the workforce and meeting more men, I am so glad that I met my future husband in college. As a woman, I expect my man to be at least as smart as me, if not smarter. I also expect him to be making at least what I make. That’s what I found at school. When I go to the bar with friends, guys will sit down next to me and try to talk themselves up because they think I’m just a cute face. Until they learn I have a masters in engineering and make triple their salaries. While I would never think of these guys as potential mates, my friends with similar qualities are forced to because they are becoming desperate.

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By: V Cross http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10758732 V Cross Tue, 02 Apr 2013 12:24:37 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10758732 Ms. Patton is right. She isn't saying that women should only be in college to get their M.R.S. She is saying that college is the best place to meet a mate. I did not meet my husband in college, and after college the pool of men really plummeted. Not only was it harder to meet educated men, but there were men who were divorced with children. It is easier to start out as equals out of college and the shared experiences make one's relationship stronger. Ms. Patton is right. She isn’t saying that women should only be in college to get their M.R.S. She is saying that college is the best place to meet a mate. I did not meet my husband in college, and after college the pool of men really plummeted. Not only was it harder to meet educated men, but there were men who were divorced with children. It is easier to start out as equals out of college and the shared experiences make one’s relationship stronger.

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By: Girli http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10757853 Girli Tue, 02 Apr 2013 09:22:04 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10757853 But that is a very good thing. But that is a very good thing.

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By: Jersey Joan http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10755444 Jersey Joan Tue, 02 Apr 2013 01:38:26 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10755444 Another "so called" expert telling young women what they need to do. Lean in - shop for a husband, blah, blah. Actually, her advice doesn't offend me as much as Sheryl Sandberg's. It is a given that students in college do socialize and many will find their mates there. Just common sense. But, don't think it needs to be a deliberate quest. I think better advice for young men and women would be don't get married until age 30. My niece went all thru college with the same boyfriend. They married after graduation and it only lasted 2 years. After she got out into the work world, she met so many bright interesting young men in her field that were so much more interesting. She and her husband went their separate ways and found new mates. Another “so called” expert telling young women what they need to do. Lean in – shop for a husband, blah, blah. Actually, her advice doesn’t offend me as much as Sheryl Sandberg’s. It is a given that students in college do socialize and many will find their mates there. Just common sense.
But, don’t think it needs to be a deliberate quest. I think better advice for young men and women would be don’t get married until age 30. My niece went all thru college with the same boyfriend.
They married after graduation and it only lasted 2 years. After she got out into the work world, she met so many bright interesting young men in her field that were so much more interesting.
She and her husband went their separate ways and found new mates.

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By: khj http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2013/03/princeton-alumna-susan-patton-urges-women-to-snag-husband-on-campus-before-graduating/#comment-10755319 khj Tue, 02 Apr 2013 01:04:03 +0000 http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/?p=473919#comment-10755319 A husband is great to have. So is a PhD. If the guy in question can fully support a young woman's intellectual, academic, and vocational aspirations, maybe Patton's right. But my experience as a college professor is that college-aged men aren't mature enough and secure in themselves enough to do so. So maybe grad school or the workplace is a better place to find the right man. A husband is great to have. So is a PhD. If the guy in question can fully support a young woman’s intellectual, academic, and vocational aspirations, maybe Patton’s right. But my experience as a college professor is that college-aged men aren’t mature enough and secure in themselves enough to do so. So maybe grad school or the workplace is a better place to find the right man.

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