Dear Liz, why is It that men feel the need to mess around with your feelings when they like you and you like them to where you are hurt and get mad at them?
St. Petersburg, Fla.
Hi there, and thanks for asking!
Insecurity…insensitivity….bad habit? Some men, just like some women, get into super bad relational patterns, and don’t even realize it. Often times they’re just used to relating that way. If you really like the guy, you might want to take the time and effort to show him that it doesn’t have to look that way, that it can be so much smoother and easier. In fact, you should be able to tell him that you don’t roll that way, you won’t tolerate it. It may be an easy fix. Some people just need to be reminded of the healthy road, others may thrive on drama and conflict, or be so insecure they always need you upset or concerned. You should be able to tell pretty quickly. Run for the hills if he’s a glutton for conflict and argument, life is just too short.