The Handmaid’s Employer’s Tale
Alex Kuczynski wrote an interesting story in the New York Times Magazine about her experiences hiring a woman to carry her child for her.
As with many Kuczynski stories, this one has aroused a chorus of critics, including James Wolcott of Vanity Fair who writes "it’ll doubtless incite a bat swarm of protest letters to the Times magazine over the author’s air of entitlement, privilege, pride in the ‘track record’ of her husband’s sperm, etc., that will brighten the holiday season and make Alex K America’s least favorite reindeer. Using the author’s baby nurse as a photo prop in a plantation-like scene — I’m sure that’s going to go over just dandy with readers, too. It’s as if the editors got together in a meeting around the salad bowl and said, How many buttons can we push in a piece to set everybody off? But that would imply cynicism on their part and I, for one, feel certain that this awful article was published with the utmost sincerity, such is my faith in human nature."
And Gawker kicks in with its suggestion that "New York Times official rich person-in-residence, plastic surgery addict, and orgy enthusiast Alex Kuczynski has a long, long, torturous story in the Sunday Magazine about her recent experience with a surrogate mother. Would you like to know how stressful and terrible it is to pay another woman to bring your child to term? No, probably not, but here you go."
Did you read the story? What did you think?
– jpt

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It reads like the Real Wives of South Hampton. It’s also a good case study on the upper class perception, mainly their obtuseness. For one thing, she writes of not wanting a surrogate in the South because she wold have to explain to her son why he was born in a a state where he wasn’t conceived. As if parents typically share the location of conception, and her son would never achieve the literacy skills online and otherwise required to read his mother’s NYT article. And of course, I’m also not impressed by the picture of the AA maid standing in military style attention in front of the antebellum home.
Posted by: kat | December 1, 2008, 10:28 am 10:28 am
My overriding thought when I read the piece was why would someone want to share that much about their personal life publicly. I’ve been mystified by the need for public confessional for a while now. Other than that, Kuczynski seems to realize her “air of entitlement, privilege” but, is at the same time, a typical guilty over privileged liberal. Certainly her past writings seem to indicate a joy in provocation. The baby nurse photo alone speaks volumes of all the contradictions and incitements. She clearly likes this kind of attention and the NYT desperately needs to lift their sagging revenues.
Posted by: bct | December 1, 2008, 10:36 am 10:36 am
Although at times sad, that was not a particularly worthy piece to me. Part of it because of the somewhat [extremely] snobbish airs of the author. I was, however, slightly saddened to see Obama’s and CU’s name in there even in passing. What’s with people… first Keith, then Michelle Rhee, now this one. Stop tarnishing names. BUT, much as I disliked the general tone of the writer, I would not like to pass judgement since I have not been thru the experience. So I will pass on commenting. But who is the woman anyway? is she famous? And good point, Kat, I was not crazy about that picture either. I thought I was being too picky, glad somebody shares that feeling.
Posted by: Question | December 1, 2008, 10:38 am 10:38 am
A complete list of the dumb things in that article:
(1) The amazing plantation picture with black baby nurse. Sounds like up-close-and-personal with baby isn’t really what Alex is all about.
(2) She’s all worked up about the mother going to Las Vegas, but feels no anxiety about her own rafting trip and carousing at the super bowl. What, no anxiety about orphaning the baby to be?
(3) Pregnant women are big fat hags, she realizes midway through the surrogate’s pregnancy. She gets to stay sexy. Uh, I don’t think so.
(4) The surrogate buys her presents, but she keeps forgetting to get the surrogate presents. What, she’s short of cash?
(5) Husband has already dumped 6 kids and two wives for 20-years younger Alex. Must I really feel sorry about her infertility problems? Exactly how sorry?
(6) The vomiting scene. Turns out babies getting born are utterly disgusting. In whose universe?
(7) Maxime Dudley. Hello? Have they bought him his first pony yet?
Posted by: Jean | December 1, 2008, 10:39 am 10:39 am
After viewing the photo….at least she isn’t a wet nurse. This is what people do for money. I didn’t see off camera but I doubt that there is a Southren Gentleman holding a shotgun on the nurse making her stand at Parade Rest! The real story should be if the said nurse is an American Citizen or is she here illegally and not paying taxes. I’m not a journalist but I thought it was your job to find out these sort of things or is it she is a Demoicrat and it isn’t worthy of following up on? Any case, big deal!!
Posted by: commrat72 | December 1, 2008, 10:44 am 10:44 am
There are people who are seriously ill unable to receive any medical attention, yet there are elective procedures like high tech surrogacy which I would assume cost in the 6 figure range. The author divulged the 25K for the carrying charge, but I could find no conclusive figures on the medical costs. It sounds like a more normal adoption was not an option for Alex K; afterall, she has the the entitlement to the latest advancements in surrogacy and also to boasting about it.
Posted by: kat | December 1, 2008, 11:14 am 11:14 am
The photograph of her with her son is kind of surprising. After going through years of anguish to acccomplish her dream, she chooses to show a photograph of herself displaying her trophy while mammy in the background watches on. I would have thought that a more conventional mother-son bonding photo was more appropriate – maybe she doesn’t have any because the baby is always with the nanny?
As a woman who struggled with fertility issues and multiple miscarriages, I actually enjoyed the article. I wasn’t, however, one of the fortunate few who could afford $150,000 to have my problems resolved. I hope she enjoys the great gift that she has been given.
Posted by: ErinSiobhan | December 1, 2008, 11:26 am 11:26 am
This is one spoiled, repulsively self-obsessed woman. Unfortunately, she’ll likely ensure that the child will turn out to be an acorn from the oak.
Posted by: Brooklyn Democrat | December 1, 2008, 12:03 pm 12:03 pm
I read the first couple of sentences of her article, and couldn’t go further. Self-indulgent drama queen. She must have struggled over every word to get that kind of goo on the page, NOBODY thinks that way…do they?
And the nurse was there to take the baby as soon as the flash ended. That much is very obvious. The child was and is a trophy when needed for display, an inconvenience otherwise.
This creature should be shamed and laughed out of the public eye.
And yes, I will judge her “without knowing her,” she put everything out there like it was right and acceptable.
Posted by: Laughing Cynic | December 1, 2008, 12:26 pm 12:26 pm
The only thing I was struck by was the compassion and kindness of the surrogate mother ~ and if I were her I would probably want to keep that little boy. A baby nurse in the photo? She says her blessings when she realizes she isn’t a swollen pregnant lady as she jets off to her other house to ski, because she is so fortunate.
She doesn’t seriously consider adoption, or deal with why she needs a biological child. There are millions of kids who are waiting for a mom, and she definitely has a good life to share with a kid who needs a chance.
Posted by: Adult | December 1, 2008, 12:56 pm 12:56 pm
Is it for real? Was it a joke? That was my take — I only looked at the photos and the big type things.
Posted by: matfl | December 1, 2008, 4:06 pm 4:06 pm
I couldn’t get by the first page. It was offensively nauseating treacle and I had no desire to read more.
Posted by: Antonia | December 1, 2008, 4:24 pm 4:24 pm
I believe this is a whole new industry in India, sort of a ‘rent a womb’ for western women. All the women are in a ‘strict and medically supervised’ setting, and, ostensibly they have the permission of their parents to avoid any possible cultural or religious problems.
Posted by: Blue | December 1, 2008, 4:39 pm 4:39 pm
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