Ex-Madam Uses Her Sex Skills to Run 'Brothel' for Disabled

PHOTO: "Madam" Becky Adams says its a human right to have pleasure, and so she helps the disabled experience sex.
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For 20 years, Becky Adams was one of Britain's top madams, running an illegal escort agency and catering to the sexual needs of thousands of men.

"Madam Becky," as she was called, was arrested several times but never charged.

"But I got to the stage where I was so successful that, in the end, I was looking at going to prison," said Adams, 44. "I had to hide away from the police in France until it all died down."

In 2009, she sold her business to one of the call girls, and in 2010 returned to her home in Buckinghamshire to write a memoir about her exploits that won the Brit Writers Award in 2012.

Surprisingly, the book also won the Erotic Award, given by Outsiders, an organization that helps the disabled to lead full lives, including a sex life.

So now, Adams, now the mother of two daughters, 23 and 17, and a grandmother, has turned a life of profit into one of persuasion.

Today, she is a sexual activist -- still a madam, of sorts -- who uses her experience running a brothel to help the disabled satisfy their sexual desires.

Adams has never had any moral qualms about her work, which has now become a calling.

"You cannot stop a disabled person from having a normal life of having the same opportunities of an able-bodied person -- it's discrimination," Adams, 44, told ABCNews.com. "So I am a facilitator working on behalf of the person to find a sex worker -- and it's completely legal. To refuse to do it is a breach of human rights. I act as their voice and limbs."

In Britain, exchanging money for sex is legal between two people, according to Adams. Only when a third party like a madam or a pimp is involved does it break the law.

"I think the sex industry is like any other business," said Adams. "You have to do what you are good at."

Adams, herself, claims she has never had sex with any of her clients.

"I'm not good with physical contact," she said. "I am better at customer service and the front-of-the house sort of thing."

So she is investing an estimated $100,000 in a fully staffed nonprofit facility for the disabled that will open in 2014. She envisions her unique "brothel" would serve those with both physical and intellectual disabilities, both men and women, gay or straight.

"There are people who have literally spent their whole lives in institutions who have never had physical contact with anyone other than a nurse or doctor," she said. "They have never been held at night by another naked person. And a person who cannot use his arms can't relieve themselves. Literally, they have no way of sexual release, but they have all these sexual feelings."

She envisions a sexual health center that would be handicapped-equipped with ramps and hoists. Transportation to and from would be provided, as well as amenities to help clients with their individual proclivities.

"Remember, disabled people are the same as anyone else," said Adams. "If someone likes to cross-dress and they'd like to come along and put on a wig and dress and be a lady and sit in their wheelchair, they can do that. We'll have makeup and fingernails to put on to be a transvestite."

But for now, she runs Para Doxies -- an old English word for prostitutes -- as a nonprofit, telephone-based service where volunteers help those with disabilities or their caregivers to find trusted sex workers. Adams gets about 12 requests a week and also provides advice from a legal team.

She facilitates sex hook-ups for the disabled for free, and educating sex workers is part of her mission.

But Adams has her critics, especially women's rights groups.

''This is soft focus street walking, it is like she's recruiting for an accountancy firm," said reporter Angela Epstein in a recent interview in ITV. "This is about young people selling their bodies for sex ... We are talking about sex with strangers and I find it depressing and bleak."

Adams argues that she screens her sex workers and her disabled clients.

"I find a lady and make sure to visit and interview her," she said. "It's my duty to disabled people to find out if she is happy to deal with a person with their issues."

Many of those workers provide services on a volunteer basis or for free.

Sex is next to impossible for those who are severely disabled, and they often live with their parents or caregivers.

"How are they going to be private?" Adams asked. "They can't go out without a carer."

When a disabled person is able to make contact with an escort, the experience may turn out to be humiliating.

"She looks at him and is disgusted, and walks away or steals his money and runs off," said Adams.

"And think about all those really amazing people who can't communicate," said Adams. "Our escort agency phones ring all day and night every 30 seconds. If someone calls up and cannot talk, you put the phone down when you hear heavy breathing and think it's a nuisance caller."

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