Combating mom guilt in the age of coronavirus

With limited work and childcare options, many moms say they’re being shamed for how they’re navigating the obstacles.
3:15 | 08/03/20

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Thank you, erielle. Now to mom guilt. Many moms say they're being shamed for how they're managing the pandemic. We saw the story first in the "Washington post." Joining us now are Ericka souter and Rachel Simmons. Erika, I'll start with you. A lot of moms saying they're being shamed about their child care choices. We know a lot of moms don't have a choice. They have to physically be at work. They can't work from home. It sounds like an impossible situation. It really is. The big issue that is being ignored or glossed over is that most families in America need two incomes to survive. If one parent has to stay home and take care of a child, that affects rent, food, clothes on your back. Parents are in this impossible situation, especially mothers who feel guilt and shame about going to work. Not everybody has the option to stay home. Rachel, you say the shaming is the tip of the iceberg. It really is. It's so much easier to shame an individual mom than to think about the system that's forcing a mom to have to make such a tough choice. If we were going to bail out child care centers with the same energy we're bailing out the airlines, we would have a different situation. The bottom line is you're the best parent of your child. No one else. Nobody gets to tell you how to parent. We have to keep our eyes on the kids and ignore the haters. Very important to remember. It's hard to do sometimes. Some communities are obviously more affected than others. The numbers are staggering. Right. The pandemic has really highlighted our society's inequities especially when it comes to parenting. 63% of all moms are the bread winners of their households. 68% of black mother and 41% of Latina mothers. The women are abandoned in this conversation. They're stuck between a rock and a hard place. What should they do? How do they care for their families when there didn't daycare or school? Why do us moms carry the burden of the shaming? There's often another parent. I haven't heard the saying dad shaking. When a dad takes care of their children, they're like a hero. It's really important to bring in your co-parent and check in each day. Collaborate on the decision making. How are you going to divide up the work? Let's try not to finger point. It's hard to have these tough conversations and ask for help. Ask for help when you need it. Keep your eyes on your children. It's not good for them to hear you judging other parents either because that will teach them to judge their peers. That's so important. Let's support one another. Thank you for this important conversation. Rachel and Erika, thank you so much.

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