Gwyneth Paltrow's 'Conscious Uncoupling' With Chris Martin Explained

The Oscar winner brought the term into the spotlight when asked to describe her split from the Coldplay frontman.
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We turn to conscious uncoupling. Actress Gwyneth paltrow bringing the term into the spotlight using it to describe her split with husband Chris martin. ABC's nick watt has a look at what the phrase really means. Reporter: Conscious uncoupling, that's what Gwyneth paltrow and Chris martin say they're up to, not divorce, conscious uncoupling. As Gwyneth danced with glee on "Glee" the other night, I wondered what does conscious uncoupling actually mean? I think the most healthy way to define conscious uncoupling is that we agree to separate. They're not going to fight. They're not going to argue about money. Reporter: So it's a constructive respectful and private alternative to let's say the Charlie sheen and Denise Richards route of courtrooms and custody battles. With the divorce rate at 50% and climbing maybe we should all read this essay posted by paltrow written by two relationship sheer 'ties who proclaim it's conscious uncoupling that prevents families from being broken by divorce. They say we're now just living too long. Life expectancy was under 50 in 1900 and now it's up around 80 and we just weren't designed to be married that long. Paltrow told me just a few months ago -- It's not easy to be married for ten years. Reporter: Apparently ten years was enough. Sea said "While we love each other very much we will remain separate. We are, however, and always will be a family and in many ways we are closer than we have ever been." I felt actual sincerity in the message. Will this be Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger? There is not a chance. Reporter: Every time we've seen paltrow and martin together recently while they were working at the end of their relationship, I must say, they did look rather happy. For "Good morning America," nick watt, ABC news, Los Angeles. And going to bring in Dr. Robin Silverman on conscious uncoupling and what it can mean for all families. It's wonderful to have you back in thank you for having me. Shed some more light on to this. Conscious uncoupling is a positive term used for divorce that's applicable and responsible and blame-free. And Gwyneth and Chris, they put a lot of thought into had. That's right. That's right. I think that the idea of divorce is so ridden with baggage and Hollywood, fly by night marriages we think of, breakups that happen on a moment's notice and by saying conscious uncoupling, they're divorcing themselves from that term divorce and saying, we're doing this together. We're doing this consciously and we're doing this for the betterment of our family. Communication here is the key. It's really the basis of all this. As a child development speci specialist then, taking this approach and having that be the focus, the preface really, if you will, how does it impact the children? Well, the children obviously get impacted by divorce no matter what but when parents are on board with positive co-parenting, with understanding that they need to be respectful to one another, not using their children as pawns and jumping in and arguing, it's going to affect the children much more positively than if they're going to be really horrible to one another. Even in the split itself my divorce, we actually used a mediator and it created an air of just cooperation from the beginning. Exactly. And that has worked for my family, as well so I appreciate this term, whatever you want to call it, it's so much nicer than what we can see on the other side. Absolutely. I think people think about marriage and the amount of work it needs to go into marriage but we don't often talk about the amount of work it takes to have an applicable divorce and we need to be very conscious of that, especially when there's children involved. It's really about giving children the opportunity to model love, to model -- You said it before. I love that idea. Can I just -- I want to ask, if you're not in the most friendly place, is it possible to get to this conscious uncoupling? Good question. Place? Can you sort of restart? I think you can. I think you need to come together and say, let's stew this over. Let's remember we're doing this for the betterment of our family and that we're two people. We both can be responsible. We don't have to point fingers and we can do this in a way that's really great for everyone. Not about somebody winning. No. You want the kids to win. You do. You want the kids to win. Understanding you're always going to be a family. You will. That's right. And so it's taking the best approach. That's right. We know that when we have kids they're always looking to us. How we're going to behave and that becomes the template for how they will behave. Alicia keys with her ex. Exactly. Her husband's ex and all vacationing together. Bravo. It can happen. It can happen if we make a conscious attempt to make it happen. Thank you so much. Thank you.

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