Away-From-Family Vacations: Selfish or Self-Preservation?

The new trend of moms' taking time off from their families sparks controversy.
4:35 | 08/30/13

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mothers trading places with the role often associated with fathers, taking time to stay in cities and work, while the dad takes the kids out to the country and summers. Many are saying -- what's wrong with that? Is this selfish? No. Or self-preservation. Yes. Abc's brandi hitt has the story we first spotted in "the new york times." The kids. Kindergarten bake sale. Christmas lights. Birthday parties. Reporter: For many moms, many mimic sarah jessica parker in "i don't know how she does it." Some women are deciding to leave their families behind during the summer, to focus on their careers and their own piece of mind. Since I went back to work, this is my busiest time of year. We decided, I would stay and work. They would do this fun trip. And then, I come in the middle of the trip and be with them. Reporter: She's not alone. Jess spent weeays away from a month from her kids and husband to work on her fashion business. Anyone that's a mother knows your kids are everything. And you spend as much time as you can with them. And you're just attached to the family life. Reporter: After eight to ten hours at work, instead of cooking dinner, these modern moms are working out, going out with friends and focusing on themselves. Did you feel guilty that you weren't around your kids at the time? I did. I felt guilty when I dropped them at the airport. My son was, like, later. But my daughter was bummed i wasn't coming. Reporter: This time alone is all possible, thanks to their supportive husbands. They open up to me a bit more than they might not have done oisz otherwise. I don't think people question men being gone from their children at all. If you're in a modern marriage, where you both have a career, there's going to be moments when one partner, male, female, or whatever, is going to have to be away from the children. It's healthy for women and their mental wellness and well-being, to take quality time for themselves, away from their famili, if it's in moderation. Reporter: Moms say, although difficult at times, it's what works for their families. It's part of it a recharge. You can do all of the projects that you haven't been able to do or have been putting off. It's the norm of what we have too much. But to have it for a little while in the summer, I would definitely do again. Reporter: For "good morning america," brandi hitt, abc news, los angeles. Joining us now is relationship coach, donna barnes. First of all, I have to say, in many cases, it's the mother, the woman, who isn't a breadwinner. This isn't a choice to stay in the city and work. Many of us would like to be out in the country with our husbands and kids. Exactly. And I think it's necessary to take that time and be whole and who you are, before you can take care of anybody else. It's necessary when you have to report to work. Right. Yeah. It's a bit of a double-standard. Nobody says about fathers who are staying in the city while the mothers and the kids are in the country. That the fathers are taking time for themselves. Man time. Or whatever -- self-preservation. Do you feel good? That's nice. And actually, everybody's talking about co-parenting, once couples split up. I think you should co-parent when you're together. And I think the father should have equal time with the kids. It's good for them. And it's good for them to have separation from their mothers. I think overall, it's a win-win. You need to do what's best for your own family. And it's great for dads to get the one-on-one times with the kids, too. Is it a sign that we're a tad sexist saying the woman who is working in the city is hanging out with the girlfriends. But the man in the city, is bringing home the bacon. There's a little bit of jealousy there, right? They wish they could do that. It's a holdover -- we've made long strides on women being equal on a lot of levels. Maybe that's one area that still needs more -- a couple more strides. Quality time with both parents is the most important. I think that's best for a kid. I think, god forbid something happens to the mother. The fact they're close to the father is a positive thing. Thank you so much.

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