How Superstar Exes Handle Co-Parenting During Holidays

Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe open up about how the former couple handles the holidays with their two children.
3:55 | 11/17/16

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There is Reese Witherspoon and her children. I cannot believe how they have grown. Yes. Wow. Gorgeous young adults. Yes, we know her ex-husband Ryan Phillippe. Nearly a decade after their split Ryan is opening up about how the former couple, how they handle the holidays with their two kids. They do it beautifully. ABC's Paula Faris has more on the lessons they've learned that could help a lot of couples. Reporter: Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe might be divorced but that doesn't stop these two doting Hollywood parents from amicably co-parenting during the holidays. Philippi telling "Entertainment tonight" as a divorced dad we trade off so last year my kids and I went to my parents in Delaware. This year they will be with their mom and I am shooting a movie up in Toronto. I'm going to fly down to philly and just have a Thanksgiving with my parents and the kids get to be with Reese. The couple are parents to 17-year-old ava and 12-year-old deacon, Reese often posting pictures of her kids on Instagram like this one where ava looks like the spitting image of her mom. Bonjour mademoiselle. Reporter: They met in th the '90s their romance blossoming on "Cruel intentions." They were married for eight years before deciding to split in 2007 and Reese saying on camera in 2011 the kids are surrounded by love. I always tell my kids, you're so lucky, it's not just your mom and dad that love you grandparents and a stepdad. Always such a great opportunity to have as many people in your life nurturing and carrying you and guiding you. Reporter: Through it all Witherspoon and Philippi have managed to greasily co-parent and Philippi telling "E.T." You have to get to that point as a divorced pant where you're not putting yourself first. For "Good morning America," Paula Faris, ABC news, New York. We're going to bring in Erica suit suitor, editor at It is apparent they've worked it out and other couples can learn from it. Ryan and Reese are a good example. They've been able to put their kids' needs above their own and co-parenting isn't easy and requires a lot of communication, empathy and patience. But, you no he, what we found that if we talk to couples, there are three things that tend to make it work, number one, they plan ahead and create a schedule. You don't want to wait on the holidays. They also set rues and boundary, not just for the kids but for the adults. That means you don't cancel last minute and that the kids follow the same rules at both houses and lastly they stay positive. You don't want to complain or be angry in front of the kids and want the whole thing to feel comfortable for everyone if you can. I like number two how set rules not just for the kids but adults, as well. Ericka, what about when there's extended families involved and how does that work out. Grandparents, you want to set time aside for them to see them. But girlfriends or stepparents, probably want to set up rules early. What role will they play? Will they be able to discipline the child or do pickup? Those are important so there's no surprises. We know Thanksgiving is next week and the holidays right after that. It is a good time to be planning right now. It is a very good time to plan right now and also want to -- we found a lot of families are wondering whether they should blend the holidays. And whether they should bring those extended families together and that can be a good idea. Not necessarily at first. I mean think about it, newly divorced and siting across from your ex-husband and his new girlfriend but if you can get to the point where you can do that and you can have this extended family vacation or holiday together, it creates great memories for you and your kids that extend beyond and last a lifetime and it's just a really important thing to do if you can. Certainly is and very happy for Ryan and Reese, what a great example. Wonderful. Erica, thank you very much.

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