5 Things You Seriously Should Stop Worrying About

Seriously stop stressing about these complaints.

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The month of January is traditionally a time for lofty goals and new commitments. But in the midst of all the self-promises and good intentions, have you taken a moment to consider your anti-resolutions? Here, a few suggestions for things you can stop giving a crap about in 2016—because YOLO.

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Instead of obsessing over some arbitrary number on the scale, focus on how you feel in 2016. Exercise because moving gives you energy, and boosts your mood. Eat cleaner because you want to think clearly, and sleep soundly. You might still end up slimmer by December, but for all the right reasons—which means you’ll be happier and healthier above all.

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Does just the thought of uttering “no” trigger a guilt trip? If so, Gail Saltz, MD, Health’s contributing psychology editor, recommends practicing this bulletproof response: “Thanks for thinking of me. I appreciate the vote of confidence—but I’ve got a lot on my plate, and I can’t fit this in right now.” End of story. Move on.

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You know the thoughts: I should be more present with my family / putting in extra hours at work / having frequent fantastic sex. It seems like everyone else is accomplishing so much (thanks again, Facebook!). The fear of falling short becomes habitual, Dr. Saltz explains, and can even turn into shame: We end up feeling that we’re crappy mothers, employees, partners and friends, when just the opposite is true, she says. You are doing the best you can, and that is plenty good enough. Here’s an assignment for that bossy inner-critic of yours: quit using the word “should.”

This article originally appeared on Health.com.