Life and Love With HIV: One Man's Story of Dating With the Deadly Disease

Bryan Johnson was just 17 when he was diagnosed with HIV.

ByABC News
March 1, 2016, 3:10 PM

— -- A jarring new report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says that half of black gay and bisexual men in the U.S. will contract HIV in their lifetime.

Bryan Johnson was just 17 when he received the devastating diagnosis.

"It took me a really long time to process," Johnson, a Washington, D.C., native, told ABC News. "I thought I was going to be alone for the rest of my life."

As a black and gay man, Johnson is all too familiar with the latest statistics -- and the many perceptions people have about the illness.

"I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. Not everyone can handle my cup of tea. There’s some people that are more open and accepting about it. There are also some people who are ignorant and, you know, just want to stay within their safe zone," Johnson said.

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For Johnson, dating has proved to be especially tricky.

"There was a guy that I met online," he said. "On paper we were perfect for each other. And then finally it came to that point that I had to disclose that I was HIV-positive. We were finally going on our date and I told him and, you know, the date went out the window."

But Johnson, who’s now 21 years old, says an HIV diagnosis is no longer a death sentence.

"It’s been a year for me being undetectable," he said. "I take Complera once a day. Actually it’s the first drug that I’ve taken, it’s the only drug that I’ve taken."

Complera is an antiretroviral medication that is taken as a single dose every day.

You can watch Johnson's full interview above, in which he opens up about life and love with the life-threatening illness.

Here are more statistics from the report that show striking differences in the rates of HIV infection for different populations:

  • Gay and bisexual men are hardest hit by HIV and are around 80 times more likely to be diagnosed with HIV during their lifetimes than heterosexuals.
  • One of every 11 white gay men will be diagnosed.
  • Blacks are the hardest hit racial group, with one in 20 men and one in 48 women projected to be diagnosed in their lifetimes.
  • People who inject drugs are at especially high lifetime risk, and women have a somewhat higher risk than men.
  • The risks are especially acute in the South.
  • People with the highest lifetime risk of an HIV diagnosis live in the District of Columbia, where one of every 13 residents are projected to become infected over the course of their lives. Rates are also high in Maryland (one in 49) and Georgia (one in 51).