"I could not believe how many women are also feeling guilty and ashamed of their drinking, and how many women want to stop and don't know how," she said.
The double standard and the stigma of alcoholism often keep a woman's disease under wraps, experts say, and embarrassment and fear initially held Wilder-Taylor back.
"I think the biggest thing for me was just asking for help, realizing that I can't do this by myself," she said.
Wilder-Taylor attended a support group and leaned on her husband. Experts say a stable support system can often make the difference between staying sober and falling off the wagon.
"It's always going to be a balancing act when someone in your family tries to get help with drinking," Jon Taylor said. "You have to look in that overall it's a big net gain."
Almost one year sober, Wilder-Taylor says the rewards are endless.
"I'm actually enjoying parenting more," she said. "Instead of feeling like, 'Oh, they're crying again.' OK, I'm not going to lie, I still feel like that sometimes. ... Now, I'm getting to be that mom that I wanted to be."