What It's Like to Be Engaged to a Porn Star

Porn star Kayden Kross met her fiance, fellow porn actor, Manuel Ferarra on the set of her first film.
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For most couples, when a husband strays, it can end it all. But this one, it keeps things going. When this woman says how was your day at the office, it takes on a whole new meaning. Reporter: The seductive lights of Hollywood lure thousands each year in search of their big break. For Kayden Kross and Manuel ferarra the dream came true. Your business from the outside looking in, it looks like it would be easy and fun. It looks really easy from the outside. You're putting a camera in front of two people who are doing something that comes naturally. But -- there's a lot more to it. Reporter: But these two don't live on rodeo drive in Beverly hills, and their films aren't playing at your local theater. You're more likely to find them online. What was your reaction when the first person said to you, "I think you should do an adult film?" I never watched porn. I didn't have any feeling on it one way or the other. It just was not on my radar. It was more like, "Huh." Like, as if someone had just said, "Oh, you could be an astronaut." It was, like, that far out of left field. Reporter: She was discovered near Sacramento. By 21 Kayden had made her first porn and within two years she was one of the highest paid performers in a $5 billion a year industry. That first film, aptly titled "Kayden's first time", was with Manuel. Hey. Don't worry about it. Reporter: A veteran of the industry and at the time a married father. That's how you met? Yeah, we met -- On your very first shoot? Didn't go, like, really great, as far as a connection between the two of you? I mean, I was so nervous about how am I going to be perceived and does my makeup look bad and are they gonna really find out that I can't act and then there was that little fear that didn't occur to me until I was on set. Where I started thinking, "What if I've been doing sex wrong my entire life and now I go and try to do it on camera and it -- like, everyone knows?" Reporter: "That's not how you do it." Right. Like, I really thought, like, "What if -- what if no one told me I've been doing it wrong this whole time?" And you were gracious. But I -- I was bad. Is that how you remember it? I only remember her -- incredible. No, no, that's not true. That's not true. You're lying. Reporter: It would be four years before they would meet again -- and when they did life looked very different. Kayden was now a full-fledged porn star and Manuel's marriage was head ed for divorce. I remember he showed up. And I was, like, mid-sentence. And I saw him. "That guy is beautiful." Reporter: That movie was called "The smiths" and much like brad and Angelina on the set of "Mr. And Mrs. Smith" sparks flew. That's you. Reporter: Who's more embarrassed watching this? You or -- Look, we're gonna K -- yes. And we're in love. Reporter: Kayden and Manuel became porn's golden couple -- the brangelina of the industry. But as they fell in love Manuel found it difficult to watch Kayden work. For the sake of their relationship Kayden agreed to stop having sex with other men on camera even though she was making more money and Manuel would continue to perform with other women. It was a lot of money to walk away from. Why did you walk away from it? But it was a thorn in the side of our relationship. I'm a jealous person. Reporter: So despite the fact that Kayden was saying, "This is just business"? It's very difficult to understand how it's okay for me to do it and not for her. Reporter: Why is it? I know that when she did scenes with other guys, she would come home to me and love me. And I know that. I also know she was really good at her job. So it made it a little difficult. He just didn't want me there. And I could see it in his eyes. It wasn't like he went crazy. You could just tell it -- it bothered him. It hurt him. Reporter: Manuel admits his jealousy is a double standard but he says his sex on porn sets is strictly business. So even though your job involves this incredibly most intimate physical experience two people can share, you're able to have a wall around it? Of course. Completely. It's not because I am having sex with a person in a scene that I'm gonna hold hands with her after the scene. We're done, we're done. Reporter: Today Kayden has taken on a new role, more domestic goddess, than sex goddess. Nine months ago she and Manuel welcomed a daughter and these days the woman who starred in more than 70 adult films is more likely to be found at the park than on a porn set. It's a new spin on the common perception of a porn star. Both Kayden and Manuel went to college, they're both are family and career focused and Kayden's even a burgeoning writer. For many publications most notably "The New York times." Do you think people would be surprised to see how the two of you live? How pretty Normal this is? A lot of people are. I often hear people say, "You could have done anything. Why did you do this?" Okay, well, tell me what anything is and how it puts me at age 29 with the love of my life and a baby in a nice house with my retirement set up, a good chunk of money in the bank, residual income, and all the free time to spend with people I love. So you can be talking as you come up. Reporter: Manuel has started directing his own films. With Kayden even pitching in to help out with the wardrobe for the very women that will go on to have sex with Manuel. You did write, quote, "I'm human. And I admit I size up the women in the makeup chair. Is she sexier than I am? Smarter, better in bed?" Yeah, I do. I size them up. Doesn't mean I get threatened and feel like he can't go to work now. But I'm -- I'm aware. I'm watching. Reporter: Think that sounds Progressive? Well how about living right next to your fiance's ex-wife? In addition to your Normal life here, your Normal life extends to your ex-wife. Yes. She lives right there. Reporter: As in right next door. Manuel's ex-wife Dana vespoli is also in the family business. A porn performer and director, she lives just steps away with their three young sons, completing this very modern family. It works out. It makes sense. It's just, sort of, easier for everyone. What do they think mommy and daddy do for a living? They understand that we work in some aspect of production. So he knows you're making movies but not what kind of movies? Exactly. Reporter: But these parents know the day is coming when they will have to have a hard conversation about just what kind of movies they make. It's not gonna define us as parents. Are you at all worried about the day that they see one of your movies? Or the questions that they might have? The questions -- they're not gonna be fun questions to -- it's not like we're looking forward to that day. We all want the same things and we all love our kids. And we all work really hard to provide for them and to keep the family strong. And that's all that matters. And then -- secondary is like, "And, by the way, we make porn." "Oh, I would have never guessed." That's usually how it goes. Yeah, like that. Reporter: Manuel is looking forward to the day when he can stop performing and focus solely on directing. Do you think you'll miss that? I don't think so, no. You'll be ready to give up having sex with thousands of women to just this one woman? I've -- that's weird. I don't want to sound cheesy, but it's almost like I started porn so one day I could meet her. I know it sounds cheesy. It is cheesy, isn't it? I don't want to sound cheesy.

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