She says she was too proud to go to her father for help. "That means, in my mind, [that] I was what everyone thought I was, taking money from my dad, the rich little girl that he paid for everything. And I just refused to be that. [I would] rather be bankrupt."
To get herself out of debt, Spelling went back to work.
"I turned into my dad's daughter and I started thinking of things to do, ways to make money," she said.
In the next few years, Spelling took just about any television job that would help her pay the bills. She also launched her own jewelry line, and in 2007, along with husband Dean McDermott, she launched a reality show called "Tori and Dean Inn Love" that also features the couple's son, Liam. The third season of their show premieres in June on Oxygen.
Spelling also inherited money from her father, who passed away in 2007. But despite the enormity of the Spelling estate, Tori inherited just under $1 million. Her brother Randy got the same. Many were shocked by the relatively small size of her inheritance — except for Tori Spelling herself. She had talked to her father about it before he died.
"It was a hard conversation to have with him. I didn't want him to think that I was asking him for the money, or even talking about something so morbid as when he would pass. But I thought it was a conversation I needed to have … for myself and for my brother," she said." We had lunch and he said, 'You're gonna be OK. I made sure. You're getting just under a million.'"
"I think part of me, in the back of my head, maybe hoped it would be different? But I hated myself for hoping it would be different, because I didn't want to take advantage, I didn't want to be that girl who needed, or wanted, my dad's money."
The bulk of the estimated half-billion dollar estate went to Candy Spelling. Some of the rift between mother and daughter was mended when Spelling's son Liam was born, but Spelling says she does not believe her mother will support her children financially.
At the end of her book, Spelling writes she always wanted to be normal, and have a family, love and safety. She says she has that now, and with a baby on the way she's looking forward to seeing that family grow.
"We'd both love a girl," she said. "But I have mixed emotions about it because part of me desperately wants a little girl so that I can have the relationship that maybe I felt my mother and I didn't quite have. And then on the other hand, I'm scared that I'll just kind of repeat the past and make similar mistakes that my mother made with me, maybe. But I'd like to give it a try."