Ask other friends to participate in the wedding in another way, Weiss says, such as by greeting guests, handing out programs, handling the guest book or doing a reading.
Rycroft and Strickland said they kept their wedding party on the small side, with four bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Is a Cash Bar a Faux Pas?
Maggie from Oklahoma City, Okla. wrote:
"What's acceptable for the bar at the reception?
The bar at the reception is one of the biggest costs of the wedding.
Many people wonder if a cash bar is acceptable, or what you need to include in an open bar. Can you only offer wine and beer?
Weiss says that asking guests to pay for their drinks is less than gracious, and it's what they'll remember most about your wedding. If an open bar is out of your budget, she suggests limiting the offerings to wine or a signature cocktail, or serve an array of non-alcoholic drinks.
"Don't do a cash bar," she said. "It's ok to have a soft bar which is wine and beer and maybe champagne."
The bottom line? When it comes to the bar, Weiss recommends cutting costs elsewhere.