Dear 'GMA' Advice Guru Top 20 Finalists: Carla Barnhill


Bullying is serious business and if it's happening, you need to take action. But first, you need to find out if that's really what's going on here. Pay close attention to your son. Look for changes in his behavior: Does he seem anxious about school or certain friends? Has he become secretive or withdrawn? Is he being bullied in other ways--problems at school or harassing phone calls? If you don't notice any other signs of bullying, you might have misunderstood what you read; teenage boys often tease each other in ways that seem horrifying to us as moms but are par for the course in their world. If you still suspect your son is being bullied, talk to him. Tell him you saw these comments and are concerned. Make it clear that talking to you about it is the only way to make it stop.

Finalist Carla Barnhill Could be Next GMA Advice Guru

What would you tell this person: "My boss keeps taking credit for my ideas. What should I do?"

Step up your game. If your boss is taking your ideas to her supervisor as though they were her own, start sending the big boss the occasional e-mail outlining some of your ideas. Ask your boss's supervisor if you can join in on a few meetings to brainstorm or propose new strategies. You don't have to accuse your boss of anything, just find ways to shine in front of those who matter. And don't underestimate the power of the paper trail. When you present an idea to your boss, shoot her a follow-up e-mail highlighting the ideas you presented. Take notes at meetings, then send them to anyone else involved to get their additions or feedback. Those e-mails and the public accountability of the meeting notes will make it a whole lot harder for your boss to undermine you.

Submissions have been edited for length, style and clarity.

  • 1
  • |
  • 2
Join the Discussion
blog comments powered by Disqus
You Might Also Like...