Make reconciliation. Take stock of yourself and your relationships often. Be honest about it. Don't reconcile until you are ready, but don't convince yourself there never can be a "ready." Have the resolve to make real and truthful and vulnerable reconciliation. The small transgressions, without even knowing it, put pinholes into the balloon of our souls. If you keep up the accounting of the soul, you can patch up the holes and even better, breathe in the energy, the air of being.
Be humble without putting yourself down. Indeed, Divine pride is necessary. But don't fool yourself into thinking that you are better than anyone else. We all get lost, but we all can find our way. Sometimes, in fact, it is the most unlikely of messengers who redirect our way.
Strive for hope and optimism. Know that every day you, in partnership with the Divine, can renew yourself and the world around you. As the seasons change and night turns into day, and this New Year of 2010 arrives, you will see that each day can be more whole than the last. If it is day again, you must believe that it can be better.
The ball in Times Square has dropped and the dawn of the New Year has come. I hope that the offering above can serve as some guidance to enable you to stay aware and ready for better days to come. If we can stop to breathe, notice and acknowledge just some of what exists around us, we may indeed help change our world and have a much better New Year. We all deserve it.
Happy and Healthy 2010!!
Rabbi Matthew D. Gewirtz is senior rabbi of Congregation B'nai Jeshurun in Short Hills, N.J. He is also the author of "The Gift of Grief: Finding Peace, Transformation, and Renewed Life after Great Sorrow. "