After a series of failed relationships, I knew I needed to take some accountability for my mistakes and try something different. I thought I would start from scratch, trying my best to tackle dating from its very roots: first dates.
I was nearing my 31st birthday so I chose to kick off 2009 with an adventure: 31 dates in 31 days.
Every day had its own challenges -- each date its high and low points. But through it all, what I have noticed most is a dramatic change not only in my approach to dating, but also in my approach to people.
I don't judge as quickly as I once did. And if I don't find a person very interesting, now I believe I'm just not trying hard enough to find something.
I kept my options and my heart open, dating the youngest and oldest men I have ever gone out with, and even managed my first series of dates with guys I met on the Internet.
What I found was a Prince Charming in each one of them. Maybe not my Prince Charming, but someone's. And hopefully, this experience has helped me create a better foundation for taking on what's next: a second date.