Corbett said parents like Angelina Jolie have taken the right approach, in allowing daughter Shiloh to wear stereotypically male clothing. She expressed her feelings to Reuters, saying, "I would never be the kind of parent to force somebody to be something they are not. I think that is just bad parenting. We live in a time where we have the great fortune to watch these kids emerge. I think children have a lot more freedom now than at any age."
But freedom can come at a price. These boys are often subjected to bullying and heartache, as in the film "Billy Elliot."
This week on "The View," pop star Ricky Martin spoke out about his struggle to come to terms with his identity. "It gets hard sometimes," he said, "but it gets really cool afterward. Accept yourself. It's very cool."
Miller said she's all too aware that Zander's involvement in pageants, as well as his interest in ballet and gymnastics, leads some to believe he'll one day come out as gay. But she's determined to let him decide his path.
"People will say, you know, he's just gonna be gay when he gets older. Well, you know what? If Zander is gay, so be it. Anything I do is not going to change Zander."
For now, Zander said, he's happy to pursue pageants and dream of a future that embraces all walks of life. "I wanna be an adventurist and a hunter and a pharmacist so I can pay for pageants," Zander said.