Bullied Teen Who Got Facial Plastic Surgery Ready to Forgive Tormentors, But Won't Forget

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"She wasn't picked to have her surgery because she was bullied," Dr. Romo said. "She was picked for her surgery because of her deformities and we could correct that surgically. If that helps her from getting bullied, thank you, God. No one is going to get accepted through the foundation because they don't like the way they look."

Nadia originally just wanted her ear pinned back, but Dr. Romo also suggested she get a chin implant to balance her face and a nose job to fix a deviated septum. In total, the teenager received $40,000 worth of surgery for free.

Should Teens Be Getting Plastic Surgery to Stop Bullying?

While Nadia's procedure may have helped her overcome her emotional trauma, some experts warn that cases like here's should be the exception, not the example. Vivian Diller, a psychologist based in New York City and the author of "Face It: What Women Really Feel As Their Looks Change" said that some "awkward adolescents" who are looking for that urgent fix might be short sighting themselves.

"When you don't give those young people the chance to see how they naturally evolve, you give them the feeling that it's required that they do something radical to fit in rather than allow them to grow into the person they are," she said.

When a teen decides to get plastic surgery because he or she is being bullied, Diller said it can send the wrong message.

"When you surgically alter the victim of a bully, isn't it questionable that message we are sending is that the burden lies on the victim and not on a culture that is fueling some bullying trend that we know is going on," she said.

While she is thrilled with her new look, Nadia and her mother acknowledge that getting plastic surgery was an extreme approach to stopping the bullying.

"[The bullies] are the ones who pressured me into getting the surgery," Nadia said. "They're the ones who commented on my ears, my nose, my chin. If it wasn't for them, I wouldn't have gotten the surgery."

Despite the surgeries, Nadia and her mother are under no illusions that her problems have all been resolved. Her mother plans to sign her daughter up for counseling sessions to help Nadia overcome the years of hurt.

"I'm not letting you mess around with someone unless you make them earn their forgiveness because if they like you now just because of your appearance that's idiotic and superficial," Nadia said. "You have got to make them see who you are now, so they don't just see your face. They see who you are, and they can look beyond it."

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