7 Questions Working Mothers Despise


I agree. If penguins can find their lookalike chicks in a colony of thousands, let's assume human parents and children can identify each other on a consistent basis. To anyone who asks this question, good luck with the rest of your adventures in stupidity.

Where are your kids?

See also: What do you do with your kids when [fill in the blank]?

Yep, people actually ask this question. And working women want to know: Has a father ever been asked such a thing?

"This question is annoying because it suggests that the person asking wants me to always be in a state of fear or anxiety when my daughter is not in my presence," noted dermatologist Dr. Dina D. Strachan. "If I weren't so polite, I'd tell them 'I don't know.'"

When Hillary Homzie, author and teacher, is asked what she does with her children when she travels, she'd love to say "I pack them in my suitcase. I've cut holes so they can breathe." Good thing she's got better manners than the questioner.

Is it hard leaving them with complete strangers?

See also: How could you leave your kids with strangers?

Many working mothers told me they believe that such comments are often made knowingly and with intent as a way to get in a jab at the working mother. What are they really asking?

As business owner Jennifer Gerlock put it, "It just makes me so angry that people assume that because I work it means I don't love them enough to even care who is watching them. Of course I worry about them!"

Yes. We working mothers are total morons who grab people off the street to watch our offspring as we selfishly try to earn a living. We are incapable of doing background checks or selecting a loving, responsible caregiver. Plus, all caregivers are monsters and we have the Nanny-cam to prove it.

Are you sure you can handle it?

Several respondents had the experience of a boss looking them straight in the eye and asking if they could really handle a project given that they also moms. For example, Suzy Stauffer's boss once asked her "What's your childcare situation?" when she requested a promotion.

Ironically these bosses are often women who sometimes end up being less family-friendly than a male superior.

The polar opposite of the "juggle question," it is far more insidious because it comes from a place of prejudice rather than ignorance. It demontrates that even in this day and age, women can still be unfairly placed on the mommy track.

What's for dinner?

See also: What are you doing about dinner?

This was voted the working mother's most reviled question. "The question seems innocuous but it implies that it is my job to produce it," seethes Rosemarie Fabien, Ph.D., a communications consultant. She compares it to the question, "Have you stopped beating your wife?"

I hear you sister. However, my reasons for despising this query are probably different from yours. Anyone who knows me knows that I am barely up to the culinary task of pouring milk over cereal. So why assume I can process a concept as complex as dinner? Whenever this question hits my ear, my neurons come to a screeching halt. For the record, I never know what I want to eat, I have no idea what to feed you, I can't make you anything to eat and I would rather starve than answer this question. That said, if you're ordering, I like salads, Japanese and Italian.

Surely I have missed a question that is like nails on a chalkboard to some working (or stay at home) mother out there. Please feel free to sound off in the comments section.

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