Transgender Executive: 'Just a Different Person Now Than I Was Then'

Brad Anderson is now Megan's boss. Megan switched divisions at Microsoft at the same time that she switched sexes, meaning that Anderson interviewed Michael and hired Megan.

"Actually I never even thought of it," Anderson said about Megan's sexuality. "I don't. I think I'm talking to a leader who leads a significant part of my organization."

However, there are challenges. Megan's online blog includes what she calls the "crappy look counter," a collection of odd reactions she's faced. She says she's happy to answer questions from curious strangers.

"I'd much rather have somebody be curious and ask questions rather than say, 'oh, that's really weird.' So if somebody like a stranger walks up to me and asks me questions ... good for them. I'm happy, like great, like I'm happy to meet you."

Megan Not Attracted to Men

Even though Michael spent a lifetime conflicted about his gender identity, Megan says she never wavered about her sexual orientation.

"I've never been attracted to men, never even one iota. All through my transition one of the questions that Anh and I talked about was, 'boy, are you going to all of a sudden become attracted to men? Uh, is that going to be an issue?' And I said, 'no, I can't imagine that.'"

Megan is a study in contrasts. She wears women's clothes, but no dresses or makeup. She changed her appearance, but not her voice.

"I'm not confused about it at all," she said. "It's hard to explain, but I'm not confused."

But it has been confusing to Anh, the wife who found out only two years into marriage that her husband was about to become a woman.

'It Felt Like a Betrayal...'

Megan and Anh begin each day the same way -- up before dawn for a jog with their baby son.

The one day that stands out as different was Mother's Day last year, when out of the blue Michael told Anh what he was about to do. She considered leaving him.

"I considered everything," said Anh, who paused to think whether she would have married Michael knowing this was to come.

"I don't think so," she said. "I think it would have been something that would have been hard to deal with. I mean, it's hard now. But I think I'm just a different person now than I was then."

Megan and Anh have kept their marriage together, but it is still a work in progress and there are still questions.

"It felt like a betrayal," Anh said. "But it also felt more like a secret that should have come out a lot sooner, and that this big issue that he was dealing with, that in 38 years he couldn't find someone who he felt comfortable enough to open up to and share this."

"I wasn't strong enough,"Megan said. "And I hadn't come to terms with it myself."

Megan Tells Her Kids to Be 'True'

And then there are the kids -- a baby boy with Anh and two older children from Michael's first marriage. Some might believe that he is being selfish and that this selfishness is unfair to his kids.

"Honestly, the whole selfish issue is one that I've struggled with a lot," Megan said. "And how can it be selfish and how can it be selfish and appear selfish to your children, especially, to model the behavior of being true to oneself? So we always try to tell our kids, you have to be true to yourself. You have to be who you are. You have to be honest with yourself."

Megan and Anh say they haven't lost any friends and their life is remarkably normal, considering all they've been through.

"A lot of those challenges [have] actually become a lot easier than I expected," Anh said. "I think our fears were much more, we thought it was insurmountable. But it's been actually a lot easier."

They plan on staying together -- husband and wife -- if slightly different than the way they started out.

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