Revenge Website Shames Accused Mistresses But Not Cheating Husbands

Copy has gotten a flurry of media attention over the past couple of weeks, with some calling it "slut shaming," pitting women against women, but Alexander sees it differently.

"If women love women so much, women wouldn't be sleeping with other women's husbands," she said. "I didn't start this. I created a platform. I'm not begging people to expose their homewreckers. They choose to use it."

"At the end of the day, it's about respect," Alexander continued. "As a woman, I am not going to sleep with somebody else's husband. I am not going to flirt with somebody else's husband. I am not going to involve myself in somebody else's marriage."

But Dana Scott, who is just one of hundreds of women bashed on the site, believes the punishment doesn't fit the crime. Scott got pregnant during her affair, but by the time she was four months along, she said she realized the man was never going to leave his wife and she ended their relationship. She said she even called his wife to say she's sorry.

"I told her everything and I apologized," Scott said. "She was very, very calm. I was very hysterical because I felt so guilty. ... I'm very sorry, I've told her so many times. I've written her many emails apologizing, from the depths of my soul, I'm sorry, and I don't know what I can do."

Scott had her baby, while her former lover and his wife moved several states away. Then, three months ago, she said she found her name and picture on Scott said she has received vicious messages from strangers online, bullying her and her infant son.

"I don't get why I'm getting all of the brunt of this when he was the one married, when he said he would honor [his wife], but I'm the bad guy and I'm getting blasted on the Internet," she said. "He is a homewrecker. The home was already wrecked by the time I came into the picture. If you truly love someone else they are not going to stray. I feel that I'm not the one who wrecked the home."

Scott is about to finish nursing school and fears the post about her on the website will hurt her chances of finding a job.

"To the future employer Googling me, and reading all of those comments on the website, seeing all those things, who would want to hire me?" she said. "It wouldn't matter how good of a nurse I was. That would go out the window and they would be like 'We don't want this woman to work here. We don't want the bad publicity.' It's not fair."

When reached by ABC News, Scott's former lover and his wife, who posted the rant on the website, had no comment.

When ABC News contacted some of the alleged homewreckers, all said they were innocent victims. One of the women, Brittany from North Carolina, was viciously slammed on the site but said the post describing her alleged indiscretions is completely false -- another example of many of how these revenge websites can destroy someone's life.

These kinds of revenge websites, including, say they are not breaking any laws because they don't create the content, the posters do, but that hasn't stopped some people from taking legal action.

"I get threats of lawsuits every single day," Alexander said. "I have people threatening to sue me, people threatening to put me in jail. They're sending the police to my house. I do have a lot of threats. ... We take them as we get them, one at a time."

Despite using what many see as a form of cyber bullying, some of the scorned women feel vindicated. Noemi Sanchez said she doesn't plan on taking down her Homewrecker post.

"I would like for her to say, 'Look, I came between you guys, I'm sorry, it happened.' You know, that's all I want is an apology because she knows what she did," she said.

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