Tired of Cupid's arrows missing their mark? No significant other to cuddle with? There may be a B&B just for you.
Valentine's Day is no longer simply a matter of giant bouquets of roses, candlelight dinners and gourmet chocolates. This weekend, a few of those cozy romantic inns will also be offering things like pints of Ben and Jerry's ice cream, voodoo dolls with pins, ski lifts for speed daters and copies of "He's Just Not That Into You."
For an estimated 89 million American single adults, Feb. 14 may be just another Sunday. But innkeepers at bed and breakfasts around the country are hoping to change that. They're offering packages that cater exclusively to those looking for love -- or looking to get over it.
The Avenue Inn, located minutes from the French Quarter in New Orleans, puts a Big Easy spin on getting over lost love. That's where guests get the ice cream, the book, the voodoo doll with pins and marker --a permanent marker, that is -- to inscribe the doll with his name, plus a one-hour massage and Mardi Gras beads.
Innkeeper Joe Rabhan says he came up with the idea for the "Breaking Up is So Very Hard to Do, But I'll Get Over Him" package after a meeting with his publicist four years ago. "She said, 'It's too bad that you don't have a Valentine promotion for people like me. I just got dumped by my boyfriend,'" Rabhan told ABCNews.com. So Rabhan started running the special year round, and he says women have flocked to the inn for girlfriend getaways, good cries – and good laughs.
"It's got legs like you can't believe," said Rabhan. "It just seems to pick up steam around Valentine's Day." He says he's used to seeing women sitting on the front porch, digging into pints of Funky Monkey ice cream and ferociously stabbing pins into their complimentary dolls.
Susan Shapiro, author of "Speed Shrinking and Five Men Who Broke My Heart," says that any type of release would be ideal for singles hoping to get over someone. "I think if you're pissed off at somebody and if you're hurt, I think that you should delve right into it and let yourself feel it," she said. "Whether it's write about it or voodoo-doll-ing it, going to a shrink, telling your friends about journaling.... I think if you're hurt, don't pretend you're not hurt."
While voodoo dolls may be a New Orleans specialty, other inns offer specials for those wishing to wallow in their miseries or relish their independence in the lap of luxury.
"To have Valentine's Day as a holiday, everyone thinks of it as a romantic holiday, and when you think of romance, B&B goes hand in hand," said Janice Hurley Hollis, director of membership sales and support at BedandBreakfast.com. "But with each [B&B] being unique, being able to offer Valentine's Day deals [for singles] just fits right in with all that. It covers both sides of the spectrum."
The William Henry Miller Inn in Ithaca, NY, has been run by Lynette Scofield for the past 11 years. After she was divorced, she realized that although Valentine's Day was good for business, she still didn't want to celebrate it. "We do lovely chocolates and we have a candle at breakfast and it's great," Scofield said. "It's just that there are some of us that don't get to celebrate that."
When her friend David Dier, also divorced, came to help run the inn, she gave him a Valentine's Day card on Feb. 15. "We decided to do an UN-Valentine's Day for people like us," she said. "So there's a day for both of us that doesn't have all the accoutrements -- the dozens of roses, the bottles of champagne."
With rates starting at $165 per night, fellow divorcees and singles can endure the holiday with a breakfast buffet and an evening chocolate and dessert buffet on Feb. 15. "I think there are a lot of people out there who think, 'I hate Valentine's Day, but I don't want to admit it,' "said Scofield.
And a B&B, she added, may be the perfect place to find someone who feels exactly the same way.
Singles who love to ski may meet a fellow snow bunny at Whitney's Inn, located in Jackson, N.H. From a singles' welcome reception on Friday to a chairlift speed dating event on Saturday, loneliness will be the last thing at hand. After making a new friend, singles can enjoy a dinner for two and a free sleigh ride.
As befits New York City, where subtlety is rarely on anyone's menu, the Muse Hotel offers a "Cupid is Stupid" package deal, which includes complimentary cocktails and in-room movies. Or there's the "Valentine's Day Ball" for singles at the Buckingham Hotel and Grayline double-decker bus tours to enjoy with friends.
Different Strokes for Different Folks
But all these packages aren't necessarily for everyone.
Theresa Braine, a single New York City resident, says that although these events would be fun, she'd hesitate to jump in and make a reservation. "I'm always wary of the types of events where the only thing that you have in common with people is that you're single," she said.
Braine wants people to know that being single isn't necessarily a bad thing. "For a woman, it's not as devastating to not have a man in your life as people think," she said. "Being single is not necessarily being alone -- they're not synonyms."
Karina House, a 21-year-old student at the University of Texas, thinks that the New Orleans "Get Over Him" package is amusing but seems to go a little overboard. "Ice cream is good for anyone, but the voodoo dolls seem a little presumptuous," she said. "Not everyone who is single is angry."
Shapiro says that singles should stick to what feels right to them. "The best thing my shrink ever told me about relationships that totally saved my life was 'Love does not make you happy, make yourself happy.'" She says that Valentine's Day doesn't need to be about someone else or the lack thereof. "Whatever it is that's going to make you feel better, whether it's sitting at home eating chocolates by yourself or going to kooky parties or voodooing, the whole trick is to forget everybody else. What makes you happy will make you feel better."
ABCNews.com contributor Allison Ignacio is a member of the University of Texas's ABC News on Campus bureau.