Strict, Controversial Parenting Style Leads to Death Threats for 'Tiger Mother' Amy Chua

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Amy Chua calls herself a "Tiger Mother" because of her strict parenting methods that didn't allow for play dates, sleepovers or choice in extra-curricular activities for her two daughters.

But her essay in the Wall Street Journal has made her one of the most talked-about – and criticized mothers – in the blogosphere.

On January 8, the newspaper published excerpts of her book in an article titled "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior." The Internet erupted in a firestorm of outrage over the piece, in which she described how she belitted one daughter -- calling her "garbage," and threatened to withhold food and bathroom breaks from the other if the 7-year-old didn't play the piano perfectly.

The outrage is so intense that Chua has even gotten death threats, according to reports.

Author: Book Is Not a Parenting Guide

Speaking with ABC News on Sunday, Chua reiterated that her book was not a how-to guide to parenting, but a memoir on her experience as a parent.

"My book is a memoir, not a parenting book! I think there are many ways to raise great kids," Chua said.

The controversy over Chua's book, "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother," heated up further on Saturday when Ayelet Waldman, a Jewish author and mother, responded with her essay, entitled "In Defense of the Guilty, Ambivalent, Preoccupied Western Mom."

Waldman's essay humorously outlines differences between what she sees as the lackadaisical approach taken by western mothers and the strict regimen Chinese mothers use on their children that Chua discusses.

The first Wall Street Journal piece, which took excerpts from Chua's parenting memoir "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother," ignited a heated debate across the Internet, with critics claiming that the book advocates abusive parenting, while others asserted that it would lead to xenophobia and feed China haters.

Aided by the controversy, "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" reached the No. 6 slot in the Amazon sales rankings on Tuesday, the day it was released.

In her response to Chua's piece, Waldman, author of "The Mommy-Track Mysteries" series of novels and the wife of best-selling novelist Michael Chabon, jokingly tells of allowing her children to quit the piano and the violin to spare her from attending boring recitals while letting them sleep over at their friend's houses to save money on babysitters.

Chua Clarifies WSJ Article

Yet her tone gets more serious when she describes how she let her daughter know her disappointment when her report card didn't have straight-As -- though this was without the "screaming, hair-tearing explosion" that Chua described in a similar situation.

"The difference between Ms. Chua and me, I suppose -- between proud Chinese mothers and ambivalent Western ones -- is that I felt guilty about having berated my daughter for failing to deliver the report card I expected," Waldman wrote. "I was ashamed at my reaction."

Waldman, 46, goes on to describe how her daughter Rosie overcame mild dyslexia and learned to read using a special intensive reading program that she was not pressured by her parents into taking, but chose to struggle through on her own.

Rosie's struggle and ability to overcome her dyslexia on her own left her parents "stunned with pride," Waldman says.

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