The general remembers his sons with the photographs that fill his office space. He carries his sons with him every day. The boys' personal items are now his keepsakes -- Kevin's license that Jeffrey Graham was carrying when he died, Jeffrey Graham's dog tag, a bracelet inscribed with both boys' names that only comes off at airport security, and Kevin Graham's 1989 Honda Accord, which is still parked in the general's garage.
The general has found some comfort in helping others live by teaching what he has learned from his loss.
"I miss them all the time. But, I mean, it helps me. They made a big contribution during their short time on the Earth," Graham said. "I'd give it all back to get them back, though. You know, just for a moment I would, if I could, just hug them one more time."
Today, Graham's sons are together again, two names inscribed on one gravestone, inseparable as they once were.
A banner left at the boys' gravesite still resonates with Gen. Graham: "The land of the free because of the brave."
Graham said he'll use the phrase for the rest of his life -- because both of his sons were heroes who died fighting different battles.