"Several instances have occurred in which the girls hold the door for the boys and offer to seat them," he said. "This can get a bit interesting, as the boys do not generally enjoy being treated in such a way."
Cindy Post Senning, co-director of the Emily Post Institute and great-granddaughter of the etiquette guru, said she admired the thought behind Ivanyi's plan, but questioned whether his rules on manners were a bit outdated.
"I wouldn't teach the same manners that Emily wrote about in 1922, but I'd definitely teach the same principles," she said.
The roles between men and women, she said, are constantly evolving. Back in the 1960s, as more women were entering the workforce, it was common for women to remain seated when a man introduced himself. Now, she said, it's considered not only good manners, but a show of equality, for the woman to stand.
For girls to accept that their chairs always be pulled out and that the boys will stand when they do has the potential to "disempower" the girls, Senning said.
"Sometimes, I hope, the woman would be in postiion to hold the door for the guy, perhaps when he's carrying her heavy bookbag," she said. And she suggested Ivanyi nix the rule about the boys standing when girls stand.
"That would make me terribly uncomfortable as a woman," she said. "Terribly uncomfortable."
But she applauded Ivanyi for trying to instill manners in his students, even if they might need a bit of updating.
"I think this guy's motives are great motives," she said.
Elise said it was a bit uncomfortable for everyone at the beginning, but now it just seems normal.
And outside the classroom? Elise said that she doesn't necessarily expect future boyfriends to adhere to the rule of Ivanyi's classroom, but "it would be nice if they did."