Desperately Seeking Married Men


Single women have found a new challenge in the world of dating: preying on married men.

While lonely ladies hooking up with wedded gentlemen may not be a new trend, the outward nature of their courtship is. They're called "affair-seekers." Is your husband at risk?

Philadelphia TV reporter Alycia Lane is the most recently accused affair-seeker to wind up on Page Six of the New York Post. Lane, recently divorced for a second time, sent several e-mails with risque photos of herself to married NFL Network anchor Rich Eisen.

The photos were intended for Eisen's eyes only, the Post reported, but when his wife discovered the snapshots on their joint e-mail account, she responded with a scathing memo:

  • Experts say that affair-seekers -- women who purposefully go for married men -- are motivated by ego-embellishment and the thrill of the chase. Is your husband being targeted?

"Sorry but those seven e-mails you sent to my husband, Rich, well oops, they came to the e-mail address we both use -- since you surely are trying so hard to get his attention. I mean, what better way to get a guy's attention than with skin! Best -- Suzy Shuster Eisen."

Lane responded to the Post's report in an exclusive interview with The Philadelphia Inquirer. She said that the e-mails were merely exchanges between friends and that they were misinterpreted.

"Rich Eisen and I have been good friends for almost 10 years and our relationship has always been purely platonic. We regularly exchange e-mails and photos," she said. "It's unfortunate that there was a misunderstanding over some harmless pictures of myself and my friends on vacation that I shared with him."

Lane says she does not seek out married men.

"I don't want to hurt his marriage," she said to the Inquirer. "I hope love comes to me. I'm not looking for it with a married man. I have been the married girl who was cheated on. … This casts me as something I am not at all."

Though Lane says her e-mails were misunderstood, the accusations of her home-wrecking behavior shed light on a growing trend among single women.

Affair-seeking women aren't afraid to put themselves out there, and while Lane denies any romantic interest in Eisen, there's a breed of women who admit to preying only on married men.

Going for the Gold Ring

There are two types of women who become involved with married men.

The first are women who are led to believe the man is single only to find out he's married with children after they begin dating. However, choosing to continue the relationship even after this revelation makes these women affair-seekers in their own right.

The second group of women don't play innocent to the fact that their man is married -- they go after the guys with gold on the ring finger. Ruth Houston, an infidelity expert and author of "Is He Cheating on You; 820 Tell Tale Signs," likens affair-seeking women to hunters going after prey.

"Women will purposefully go after married men for ego-embellishment reasons. It makes them feel more important," Houston told ABC News. "Look at how attractive and sexy I am that I can take this man away from his wife, or they may truly feel that they are a better match for the man than the wife is."

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