It's a message that Pappas agreed to deliver to Womack in person. Last month, she traveled to Austin to meet with Womack after his "20/20" interview, two-and-a-half years after their last tearful encounter at the "After the Final Rose" taping.
While waiting for Pappas to meet him on the rooftop of his Molotov Lounge bar, Womack described himself as excited, but nervous.
"Actually it's awkward because it feels like I'm seeing kind of an ex-girlfriend that I haven't seen in years, so of course, drums up those feelings that, uh, I wonder if I'm going to say the right thing, do the right thing," Womack said. "The last time I saw her was actually pretty brutal."
For Pappas, it was an opportunity to let Womack know that she understood his decision, as painful as it had been for her at the time. "I consider him more a friend than an ex-boyfriend now," said Pappas.
After a huge hug, Pappas and Womack were immediately on friendly terms, discussing their new relationships and their new perspective on dating on reality television.
"It wasn't until ... I became the Bachelorette, and did the show myself until I fully understood like the pressure that you can be under," Pappas told Womack. "How you get halfway through and you're kind of like, is this really real?"
"It's very weird and, and I guess cool how things, when the show doesn't work, everyone seems to find happiness," Womack said to Pappas. "Maybe in a roundabout way the show does work."
Pappas, the former host of the Lifetime show "Get Married," is pursuing a career in television and has found love again, this time with teacher Stephen Stagliano, the twin brother of Michael from season 5 of "The Bachelorette."
As for Womack, he is out of his recluse stage, and says he has learned valuable lessons from his Bachelor experience. "I'm not a sellout," he said. "I'm really proud ... I've learned that I'm a little more strong than I at one time thought. "